Marcella Arguello is Rewriting Latina Perception in Comedy

Lucy Flores interviewing Marcella Comedy

Marcella Comedy keeps it real. Check out her hilarious and insightful interview in a new episode of Jefa Status.


Video Transcript

Speaker 1: (00:00)

I have a really bad problem of saying everyone’s name in like full on Spanish. I prefer Marcella Josefina Arguello, what a beautiful name I have. It is a beautiful name actually. So MarcellaArguello.com, Marcellacomedy.com. Oh, I’m sorry, Marcellacomedy.com. I’m sorry. I have not had coffee. I haven’t eaten. Not a good fan. Not the fan she claims to be. I’m being a terrible host. If I had glasses I would pull them down. You know what don’t send me a nasty tweet. Be nice. All right. All right. Welcome to Jefa Status. I am Lucy Flores, your host, where we are talking to Jefa boss status Latinas. This is where we dig into what makes them tick, what motivates them, what pisses them off. But basically the how, the what, the why this week. Oh my gosh. You guys, I cannot even begin to tell you how excited I am to have this person. Um, I’m actually personally a fan. Uh, I’m a fan of all of my guests, but this was like a kind of like weird stalker-ish slightly stories.

Speaker 1: (01:02)

So, um. Good to know. Good to know that. Good to know. You know what, we’re going to get into the details. Um, but I have Marcella Arguello. Marcella Arguello. Arguello. Wow she could have asked me before she chose not to. In English it’s Marcella Arguello. Um, and she is this incredible comedian. She’s obviously gonna correct me if I say things wrong cause that’s what she does. I’m going to actually read, I don’t do this generally, but I’m going to read a little bit of her bio because one is hilarious and two, I just kind of don’t know what it means and I want to ask her about it. So she starts out by saying too lazy to shoot hoops and too tall to model Marcella Arguello stands over six feet, although she may be taller than most men, the only thing more intimidating than her height is her comedy. True story. Marcella mix is a combination of genuine reason with a sexy suggestion of street deemed as sexually and ethnically ambiguous. She appeals to everyone and is not afraid to tell you how she really feels about subjects concerning race, gender, politics, relationships, family work, music, pop culture, and whatever else is on her mind today. So we’re going to talk about all of that. Welcome everyone Marcella. Thank you, thank you! I know I feel like I need like a studio audience. So like everybody can clap. Marcella genuine reads a combination of genuine reason with a sexy suggestion of streets.

Speaker 2: (02:25)

I think that I, my background has allowed me to present my comedy with logic, sound logic, but kind of sprinkling in things that people don’t see because comedy is usually, um, it’s either like very hood or it’s very like white tailored for a white audience. And so I feel like I’ve, I’m like right in the middle of that where it’s like, I just sprinkle a little bit. Just like Latinas. Yeah. We live in the hyphen. Exactly. We live in the hyphen. Yep. We do. Okay.

Speaker 1: (02:57)

I, you know, and, and sexually and ethnically ambiguous. I mean,

Speaker 2: (03:03)

I mean the ethnically ambiguous is obvious. Yeah. Beacause you know, people don’t know I’m, I’m Salvadorian, I’m Nicaraguan, I’m Lebanese. Um, and so that kind of stumps people. People are constantly guessing. I talk about it on my album, The Woke Bully. Like, people are constantly trying to guess. And I’m just like, you know you could just ask me instead of playing this game, cause I didn’t want to play this game. Um, and I’m sexually ambiguous because there are a lot of people that, I mean, people. Can’t figure it out. They can’t figure it out. I mean, some people think I’m trans and so I’m just all over the place on the spectrum of how people perceive me. Yeah. And but it’s been fun.

Speaker 1: (03:36)

That’s ultimately it’s based on perception. Right. It is based on perception. Because people are constantly trying to put folks in boxes and then figure out from there. Right. Well, okay, prior I want and get into all the incredible stuff that you’re doing and everything you’ve been doing, you have so many projects going on. I do i’m very tired right now. It’s amazing. Um, but the purpose of this show is that really, um, there’s so few Latinas out in any industry, right. Um, forward facing, right? So we’re, our stories aren’t being told. We oftentimes don’t have, uh, access to mentors, et cetera. And so a big, big goal of this show is to really talk about people’s journeys and how they actually got to where they’re at. Cause I think another thing is that we tend to look at folks and we’re like, Oh, she’s this amazing comedian or you know, she’s this business woman or she’s the CEO, but, but then there’s never really any conversation about how they actually got there. Right. So you’re from Modesto. I’m from Modesto, California. And tell us how it started. You’re also Salvadorian and, Nicaraguan.

Speaker 2: (04:38)

Yeah so I was raised culturally Salvadorian because my parents were born and raised in El Salvador. And so like that, that culture is with me through and through. Um, I just, you know, because I’m, I favor the Lebanese Nicaraguan side. Like I have to like mention it, but like I, the Nicaraguan culture is very, I don’t really know very well. I definitely don’t know the Lebanese side at all. Um, so I’m always like, yeah, I’m salvi. I’m pure salvi, but I’m not pure salvi. But in my heart, I’m pure salvi, um, I can make pupusas and I can make tamales and, um, and that really sets me ahead of the curve there. Yeah exactly. You’re totally, that’s it. You’ve checked the boxes. I checked the boxes. Um, and so yeah, my parents moved to, well my parents came to this country in the 80s and they started in the Bay area cause we had family there and then we moved to the Central Valley cause that’s where the job opportunities were for my dad.

Speaker 2: (05:27)

And so, and then it was just like suburban living, but like with a fight, like I didn’t know until I got older that like the neighbors were calling the cops on my mom for walking in the neighborhood, you know, like stuff like that. And I’m like, what? I didn’t know that. And I was like, Oh yeah, of course we’re the only Brown family in that block, you know, and stuff like that. Um, and so I was like, uh, I think I lived a relatively privileged reality compared to, especially in my family in El Salvador. Um, so it was I, but I was, I’m like the classic story of a comedian, the youngest in the family, like the class clown. I was all those things and I just liked performing. And I used to like impersonate Michael Jackson and in middle school and high school and people knew me as that, oh the girl that does Michael Jackson at a theater. Um, and then I, I always wanted to be a teacher cause I liked kids and then I got in the classroom and I was like, these kids are idiots and I don’t, I would laugh at them when they would like cry. And I was like, I’m not.

Speaker 1: (06:28)

Yeah, you’re probably not, not teacher material. Yeah I’m not teacher material.

Speaker 2: (06:32)

I’m a good tía, I’m a really great tía to eight nieces and nephews. But, um, that’s because I can laugh at them that I’m not, I don’t get in trouble if I laugh at them. Right. Yeah. Uh, but, so I started a comedy in San Francisco and I dropped out of college and I just pursued comedy as much as I could. But I was like working as a bank teller. I was like, I became assistant manager at a bank and then I just finally was like, I was responsible for like millions of dollars at the bank and I was like, I can’t do this. I just want to tell jokes.

Speaker 1: (07:04)

It’s too much pressure. It’s too much pressure. Can I tell a joke about all these millions of dollars. Exactly.

Speaker 2: (07:08)

And also, when I was working as a at, at the bank, I was like, you know, you get paid to be nice to people essentially when you’re doing customer service. But the problem was at nighttime I was getting paid to do whatever I want and say whatever I want to people. So I, and I favor being mean to people. So I was getting paid to be mean to people. So it was like at nighttime I get talk shit. I feel like most banking customers feel that that’s probably the case. That yeah, most of the folks that work at banks are being paid to be mean to us. I mean. That’s what it feels like. That was thing is, I was a manager so I had to be like considerate and polite and stuff. And it was tough though. So like at night I was being paid to be mean to people and then the day I had to like be nice to these idiots that don’t know how to like balance their checkbooks and I was like, I don’t ******* have time for this nonsense you ******* idiot.

Speaker 1: (07:54)

I feel like you’re going to make our sound editors work overtime cause because. Oh I can’t cuss? No, no, no. You could totally cuss. I can hear our camera operators laughing. Oh sorry. My bad. That’s good there’s an audience. So yeah, if folks are listening and you hear random people laughing, it’s totally fine. Hey the crew needs a laugh sometimes. Exactly. Don’t judge. Okay, but before you go on though, let’s, let’s stop there cause I want to dig into a little bit about that process of comedy again because oftentimes, it’s the old adage, you don’t, you can’t be what you can’t see. I’m sure you didn’t see a lot of. There was no Latinas. No women and definitely no Latinas in comedy. So as you’re being the class clown, your, and then I also kind of want to get a sense of, you know, that the whole sexy suggestion of street and your comedy, it just really speaks to me because, um, and especially your last album Woke Bully, which we’ll get to that as well.

Speaker 1: (08:52)

Um, and just the political commentary that you do. My background is in politics. So, uh, you know, I, I obviously identify a lot with what you talk about, what you joke about, um, that oftentimes, you know, it’s very much based on truth. Um, but generally speaking folks with that perspective, um, experienced various hardships or, or they come from. Sure. Um, challenging families, challenging backgrounds, you seem to have a really strong grasp of everyday struggles and what folks are going through. But you also say that you kind of were raised and you were, you were typically middle-class, kind of in, in Modesto. So first, how did you one think that without there being anyone who looked like you, you could possibly make it in, um, in comedy. And then second we’ll get into like, where does that perspective come from?

Speaker 2: (09:51)

So I, so I was obsessed with comedy, obsessed with standup, obsessed with sketch comedy. I just loved it. I absorbed all of it. I loved like Seinfeld was my favorite show when I was 12. I had a crush on Dave Attell when I was 19. Like I, my taste in comedy was not like the girls that, you know, I was sharing space with in school. And uh, I luckily I had like my older brothers and their friends and they just loved comedy and they were goofballs and I loved spending time with them and they kind of forced me to push myself to be funnier and funnier. And I talked about on the album of like how like my home girls when I was 13 tried to change who I was and I was like, and I knew myself too well to be like, bitch, I don’t give a ****.

Speaker 2: (10:31)

If you don’t want me to say what I want to say, like that’s not my problem. My problem is not you. Right. I’m going to say what I want to say. And um, but again, never thought I would do comedy. I never thought, it was never a thought for me. I remember specifically my brother’s friends telling each other, you should do stand up, you should do sketch, you should do this. Like they would tell it to each other. I was never told that no one ever said I should do it. And it wasn’t until I started, I went to go see Jim Gaffigan live doing standup. This is, I mean now he’s, I mean a household name. How old were you? I was 20. Okay. And I went to just see him. He, I was a fan of his and we’re were just after the show, we’re just talking **** back and forth and he goes, you should do comedy.

Speaker 2: (11:16)

And I was like, what? He’s like, you should do standup. I was like, Hm. I don’t, what? I didn’t had, no, no one had ever said that to me. Wasn’t even computing. But once I thought about it I was all, you know what, he’s right. I should do standup. Why not? I’ve always performed. I like, I’m a selfish performer. I like to be alone. I don’t like depending on other people. Cause when you do theater or improv you depend on other people. And I hated that because people aren’t dependable. Right. But in stand up I can do whatever I want and it’s just me. And like I come, my family. I mean my, my dad was Los Hermanos Flores in El Salvador in the 70s. So I come from a musical background and a performance background. But again, I, I was like, I’m not going to like follow in the footsteps of my dad.

Speaker 2: (11:58)

You know, I didn’t like want to be a musician. Like I love music, but I didn’t, I was like, Oh no, this is not, this is not the Avenue for me. So when Jim Gaffigan was like, you should do comedy and you know, straight white dude, you know, he’s the one telling me it, it did make me go, Oh I could, but no one had ever said to me before then. And um, and looking back, cause I remember like right after he said that, I was like, Oh, he probably says that to everybody. But then you get older and you realize comedians don’t tell that to anybody. We don’t encourage anybody to do this ****. It’s so terrible. It’s so hard. Yeah. And I don’t know what he saw in me, but I’m glad that he did because if he hadn’t planted that seed, I would have never done it.

Speaker 2: (12:35)

Right. You know? Okay. And so from then given, because that just kind of fit into your personality, it was like, actually, yeah, I can do this. And so then it was just a process of you kind of getting into it. So what does that look like? I mean you just hit open mics and, and I had um, I went to school, I went to San Francisco State for a semester and I was like, I should take a theater class. Cause I always took, took theater when I was in college and I took the art of comedy not knowing what it was. And it was cool. We learned the history like all the way to the Greek times, the comedy. And it was really fascinating and it was really cool. But, excuse me, one of the assignments was doing three minutes of standup and I had already been thinking about it after he had said it.

Speaker 2: (13:17)

So, so, uh, in a lecture hall of 200 students, I got to do the three minutes of standup and it was like 30 other students and me and another guy did really good. I was the only girl and I went up to the guy who did really good because he ended up telling the teacher like, yeah, I do stand up. I do open mics. And so I went up to him afterwards I was like, where do you do open mics? Cause I want to do it, you know. And so he gave me the info and it was crazy cause I never saw him in that class again. I never saw him at the open mics. I don’t know if he died. I don’t know where that fool at. But because of him I went to this place called The Brainwash it was a cafe and now it’s shut down.

Speaker 2: (13:51)

But um, you just hit open mics and that’s, I mean it’s a grind, you know. And back then, 13 years ago, it wasn’t a lot like we were in a comedy boom right now there’s a lot of comedy, there’s a lot available space for comedy, a lot of stage time for beginners to, to vets. But back then it was really tough in San Franciso. Not to mention digital media. No to mention digital media. Like you just create your own thing. Exactly. You even have a little bit of a personality, you have a chance. You do. It’s true. You do. And um, but the difference is that there is no, there is no trading. That work ethic of being in front of people. Like you learn a lot, you know, being in front of people, performing in front of people, seeing what actually works in front of regular people and um, it’s invaluable. But yeah.

Speaker 2: (14:34)

And how was your family adjusting to all of this? Cause I’m sure comedian in a space where there’s no other Latinas. I mean your family’s from El Salvador. What was the reaction? They were pretty disappointed at the beginning. It was tough. what did they want you to be? They didn’t want me to drop out of school. Right. That was bad. Sure, of course. And then they didn’t want, they wanted me to stay at the bank because they were like, you could be a branch manager. And I was like, that sounds **** why the **** would I want to do that with my life? You guys, you guys didn’t come to this country so I could manage a bank. That sounds terrible, you know? Um, but in their perspective, that sounds amazing because it’s a bank, it’s white collar and it’s an office.

Speaker 2: (15:19)

They probably consider it an office job. And that was the other thing is they were like, well if you’re going to drop out of school, stay at the bank. Like, and so I did for a few more years, which is how I became the manager. But it was like, I don’t want to, I, this is, and I get it, I’m good at it, but I’m good at a lot of things, you know, like I don’t need to do this. This is not the place for me. So the first like, I don’t know, six years is really, really, really hard. My parents were, my dad was not supportive. Um, but like my mom is like, she’s just a good Latina mom. Like just trying to be sweet, trying to be, you know, supportive. Even though she doesn’t get it, I don’t think she really found me that funny. I still don’t think she does because she doesn’t get it. Do they call you Marcella? Is it Marcella or. Marcelita yeah. They were like Marcelita, you’re not that funny. No. Well when they’re talking to me about it, like Marcelita, I can’t believe you’re talking about. That was my dad. He’d get really mad at me. Trying to convince you. But you know he was a musician in the 70s and he traveled the world. He knew it was a hard life. That was a thing that I didn’t understand until years later. Like, Oh, it’s a hard life for a man, let alone for a woman. Yes. Yeah. So

Speaker 1: (16:33)

it’s so funny that you mentioned that a lot of people, I, my background is fully out there. Um, that’s why I love talking to women about their journeys, especially Latinas about their journeys because it’s so important that we understand how we got to where we are. Right. Um, so that, you know, others really benefit from that. They benefit from hearing all of these things and the obstacles and the challenges and, and also the successes. Right. But, um, one of the things that I don’t talk about that often about my own background is that my dad was also a musician. I do talk about that. But, um, we ended up moving to Las Vegas because of a family tragedy. Both of my brothers were murdered around the same time in East LA. And my dad was, um, touring and he’d gotten his first gold record. Um, so he was like, you know, this is back in like the Vicente Fernández days.

Speaker 1: (17:24)

You know, like I’ll, all of like when all of those guys were coming up, my dad was to, and from one day to the next, he, this tragedy was just so, it was so much for him that he took us all to Las Vegas and that’s where we started, tried to start a new and he literally went from being this famous singer to working a buffet line in Las Vegas. So fast forward years, I have my own struggles. My mom leaves my family I school to prison pipeline and hanging out in gangs, getting arrested, juvenile parole, all that stuff that I talk about a lot. Um, but one of the things that I don’t mention often is that I’m one of the few in our family of 11 of us that were left, um, that actually inherited any of his talents. So he taught, one of the ways in which we reconciled was because I recorded a Selena song on this tape recorder and I had done, when I was locked up, I participated in this, um, uh, musical thing.

Speaker 1: (18:27)

What do you call it? Showcase, you know, and I did a song. Anyways, long story short, um, I was, I was a lounge singer in Vegas. Oh my god how fun! That’s cool. Yeah it was so much fun like a couple of years. In Spanish or in English? In English. Okay cool. Yeah. It was like all the, all the seventies hits, like covering all the, all the disco hits, you know, and it was a blast, but I thought that I, that was one of the things that I wanted to do was pursue music, you know, become a singer because my dad was a singer and I was actually pretty good at it and I loved it, like absolutely loved it and it was fun. Um, so it was like, you know, 19, 20, 21 around there. Um, had not even gotten my life together, really. Not even gotten my GED yet. I dropped out of high school and stuff.

Speaker 1: (19:11)

The one thing my dad never, ever, ever discouraged me ever from anything. My dad was like, kind of the antithesis of toxic masculinity, Mexican machismo male. Right, right. He was like, you can do whatever you want. That’s nice. It was nice. Um, and one of, you know, my saving graces and all of that. The one thing he told me that I could not do and that he did not want me to do was to pursue singing and to pursue it as a career. And he went to, you know, some of my performances and everything, but it was exactly what you’re saying. He was just mad.

Speaker 3: (19:47)

Yes, like with your dad.

Speaker 1: (19:48)

You know, was that they understood my dad I think. And also the trauma from not being there and blaming himself for all those years for my brothers being murdered or you know, in the way in that went down. He really blamed himself for a long time for feeling like he wasn’t there. Um, so anyway, it’s, it’s, so, it’s just fascinating how these, that’s just the same kind of over and over again and it’s exactly what your dad did to you. Is what my dad did to me. Only you didn’t listen to. I listened to him. You didn’t it. Oh yeah that’s good. That’s probably why you had a good relationship with them. I had a horrible relationship with my dad. But you know, I mean, you know, I ended up pursuing other things. I ended up in politics, law school and here I am. So I don’t regret any of it. And I actually started a mariachi when I was in college and still I still sing on occasion and I, you know, like kind of do it. But you know, it’s really just fascinating. Dude now I want to hear you sing.

Speaker 3: (20:45)

No. Este corazón aun te quiere. I totally will.

Speaker 1: (20:45)

Amanese orta vez.

Speaker 2: (20:48)

No, no. Oh my god.

Speaker 1: (20:52)

But I love it. And, uh, and you know, that’s the thing is like, it really is about, I have never once felt, um, uh, like any regret for not pursuing those things. Right. Because I still pursued, like you said, you know, there’s so many things that we’re good at, but it has to be that thing that you love. Right. Frankly, I love my public service and everything that I’ve done thereafter. And you obviously love what you’re doing. Sure, sure. Um, so you know, like it’s given that and the fact that your dad was not supporting you, what was then like your biggest challenge moving forward beyond that?

Speaker 2: (21:30)

Um, I mean, just the industry, the industry is the biggest challenge. Cause like it didn’t, I mean, of course it’s annoying that your parents won’t support you, but that doesn’t, it’s not going to stop me. And it’s, to me, it wasn’t a challenge. I was like, yeah, of course they’re gonna support me. They’re like conservative Latino, third-world upbringing. Like why would they support me? That doesn’t make sense. So that, that was not the challenge for me. The challenge was being in this industry, being white passing, people not knowing what box I fit in, you know, cause it’s like, okay, she’s Latina but she’s not like that kind of Latina, you know? And I’m white passing. But I’m also like speaking against the government issues and you know, things like that. So people were like, what? What is she, what is she doing? That was the biggest challenge. And even still, I mean, as, as well as I’m doing now, it’s still confused. I’m still confusing to a lot of people. Right, right. Well, and one more thing I’ll add before, excuse me, before

Speaker 1: (22:21)

we go onto some of these different things that you’ve done, um, is that I think, you know, for our audience also growing up Latina and, and having these ambiguous identities and also our cultural challenges with our families, obviously that doesn’t apply to everyone, but for a lot of us, it’s not uncommon that your parents don’t support you. And so in many ways it’s like you are doubly challenged in that you want to pursue these different things. Even just the sheer concept of, um, moving to go to college or moving away from home. You know, some parents are like, absolutely not. You’re going to community college or you’re staying here, you’re staying local. And they don’t allow their children to flourish in that way. But then also it’s like, okay, not only have you, or you’re doing your own thing, your parents may or may not be supportive. But then in addition to that, you’re facing all of the obstacles that we faced just being us, you know, out in the world. And that doesn’t sound, and for you, I think, um, maybe it was more because you were just very confident in the things that you wanted to do and, and like what was serving you best? Like what do you think was that thing that most helped you not only get through, um, the challenges with your parents, but then also just pushing past all of these obstacles that exist in the industry? Well,

Speaker 2: (23:46)

so going, I mean it’s good that your dad was like the opposite of like the toxic masculinity, the machismo, all that ********. My dad was that and I at a very young age at like seven, as soon as I could put thoughts logically together, I was pushing back on my dad because he would say, Oh, you girls, you can’t do this. You girls, you can’t do what the boys are doing. And I, even though I didn’t even want to do those things, I was all why though? Explain to me why I cannot do it because my sister very much, it was more like as a physical tomboy. I was like a, a um, I was like a presenting tomboy. But my sister was like, like climbing trees, like tank, like, like getting her knees scuffed, you know, like she liked rough housing with the boys and so they would get her in trouble for that.

Speaker 2: (24:29)

And so I would straight up to speak to my dad. Like why, why can’t, why can’t we, what? Why? Why can’t she just go and play? Why can’t, why, why do the boys get to go and I can’t and we can’t. I don’t understand. Like, and he couldn’t explain it to me. You girls just don’t, we just, the girls don’t do that. Okay. But why though? Tell me why and then I will wrap my head around it. But you can’t. So we’re going to, I’m going to keep, you know, we’re going to keep ******** with the boys until you can tell me. And I would just put up a fight. They wouldn’t let us out of the house cause that was the other thing, not being allowed out of the house while the boys get to go to a party. Meanwhile we got to stay in the house. That **** did not make sense to me. And it really infuriated me that he could never explain it to me. My sister was like a little more like passive and went, Oh okay, I guess we can’t. Okay. And I’d be like,

Speaker 1: (25:12)

no, we’re fighting for our rights in this household. Protesting with a sign. Yeah protesting.

Speaker 2: (25:19)

Feminst rights. You know I didn’t know what being a Feminist was. I didn’t know what sexism was. I just knew what he was saying, made no logical sense. It still doesn’t, you know. Exactly. And so fighting him at a young age and, and I mean, you know, when you’re fighting your own dad in the house and, and you’re, you know that you’re right. Because I did, I knew it was right. And um, you know, dealing with that for whatever, 15 years, however long that took, and then seeing it in other people and seeing it in school and being, and being ready to fight these people because I was like, you can’t, I’m not stupid. Like you can’t tell me I can’t do this stuff because I can do this stuff. Cause I also know you can’t explain why I can’t do these things. So that has really helped me, but that’s the thing is that like that’s a personality trait that I inherited from my father’s side. Like he’s a very aggressive person. He, he’s very argumentative and he passed that to me and thank God he did because I don’t think I would’ve survived. I wouldn’t be here if I didn’t have this personality, you know.

Speaker 1: (26:21)

Well especially in your industry. Right? So your industry is particularly sexist. Um, definitely male dominated. I mean it’s. Comedy, when I think when I analyze it in terms of industries, it feels very much like the tech industry. Right? Right. Like you have your comedy bros. But then you also have your tech bros, right? Like women are very much discouraged and, or just kind of beaten out of the system. Right. Um, and so yeah, you have to really, I would imagine you have to just develop. You have to be ruthless. Yeah. You have to be ruthless and you have to develop beyond a thick skin. Like you gotta just like plow through. So let’s talk a little bit about that. All right. So you’re, you’re there, you’re doing open mics. Um, you know, what are some of your experiences in terms of one people not, and then you’re totally into your comedy, right? So getting back to the perspective that you have now, which now I kind of understand where it’s coming from. Um, and that you’re like very much, I’m a Latina. You talk about it. That’s one of the ways in which you got on my radar. Cause you were on Two Dope Queens.

Speaker 2: (27:28)

My father made me, had us be proud of our culture like that. I always think about how so many Latinos and to this day, even people who are famous right now are like, Oh, when I was growing up, I didn’t know if I was a white side or where I was, where I fit in and dah, dah, dah. And I was like, I, I didn’t care. I was, my dad taught us to be proud, to be American, proud to be Salvadorian. Like he taught us to be pro. And so I’d never, and again, I can’t be talked into some nonsense. So if anyone, like if somebody at school was Mexican, they were like, Oh, what is that? And I’m like, Oh, what are you like, you can’t, you can’t tell me I’m not good or great because I’m this other thing. Like there was no talking to me down. Right? And so when I hear these stories from people that are even my age, um, and there’s all like, Oh, I don’t, I’m this, this and that, I know it. Oh, I don’t speak Spanish. And it’s still on my identity isn’t just like, ugh, you don’t have to allow what other people expect from you to be a part of your identities, you know? So I knew that at a young age, and again, thanks to my dad, um, what the hell was the question? I don’t even know.

Speaker 1: (28:30)

So that’s, so you’re taking this into your comedy and you’re leaning into your identity and, um, and there’s a certain challenges associated with that because people don’t get it and, or you’re a woman and, or you’re Latina and they don’t even know what to do with you at that point. Right? So like what are some of the things that you’re coming up against? Oh God. Trying to get booked and trying to get gigs and like, you know, just the struggle. I mean you know it’s never ending. Yeah it’s never ending. I mean that’s the other thing is that it’s so much of me

Speaker 2: (29:02)

as a comic has always been like, I just do comedy. Like it’s not about my identity. I do think that I’m just a funny person and cause they’re like here and especially in LA, it’s very segregated. It’s like the comedy club scene, the white like alternative scene. And then the black scene, there’s, those are the three scenes and they’re all different to crack. I’ve cracked all of them at different times and I see where I fit and it’s my own lane, you know? And that makes sense because I, I’ve always considered myself like a comedy club comic because I can go into comedy club and entertain people and it’s fine. Um, but people are, again, trying to put you in these three separate boxes. And for me it’s just been like, I’m just funny. I’m just funny, I’m just funny and just as I happened to talk about these things, but why shouldn’t people have to listen to this? Like I’ve had to listen to, you know, white dudes talk about whatever the fuck. Hating their wives, which is like, dude, get a divorce. And they do talk about hating their wives a lot. It’s just like what are you doing. Why are you married to this woman. Anyways. So it’s like.

Speaker 1: (30:01)

The funniest thing is when if it’s a special or something, then the wife is there. Oh man. And you’re like, Oh, that’s. That’s abusive. Very supportive just like the whole set was based on how horrible she is. So ridiculous.

Speaker 2: (30:14)

Um, but um, yeah, so I mean the obstacles, they feel never ending. That’s why it’s funny to be asked that question because they do feel never ending. They’re happening now as we speak. And it just, it’s a matter of, you know, convincing people. I’m funny telling people I’m marketable, like finding the lane for me, you know, uh, talking guys into booking me, you know, like it’s just, this is part of why I started my weekly show because I was kind of sick of like people having to, you have to have this many credits to get booked on this cool show. And it’s like, why, if you’re funny, you’re funny it shouldn’t matter what you’ve done. Um, and I understand why you want to book people with credits and have been on TV and shit. But I just remember when I first moved to Los Angeles that I was like, I’m funny and I’m getting kind of caught up in all this ******** that has nothing to do with comedy.

Speaker 2: (30:59)

I just want to be funny at a show. And it did, it almost like didn’t exist. Like you either had a kiss somebody’s ass, you had to have television credits or whatever you had to do, bring your shows, you know, which is like your friends paying and you don’t get any cut of the money. It’s so bad. Like it’s so much ******** in LA. And I was just like, I just want to be funny. It’s just so hard, which is why I spent so much time going back and forth from Southern California, Northern California, because I could get booked up there and based off the fact that I was funny, it wasn’t anything else. But yeah, cause you’re funny. And then I could get road gigs according to being funny. And that was nice. But that’s why LA sucks is because the industry kind of ruins the art of comedy and just being funny.

Speaker 2: (31:40)

And also the audiences in LA are not great either. Oh really? Oh they’re bad. What do you mean, in what way? A lot of them are expecting to see a celebrity, whether it’s a comedian on stage that they, that they recognize or a celebrity in the audience that they recognize. Cause those two things are so common here. They’re almost spoiled. But some of the celebrity comedians aren’t that great because they, they have stopped challenging themselves to be great comedians. You know? And there are a few like Bill Burr, Dave Chappelle, like these guys were like constantly trying to be really good at standup. And, um, I think a lot of people kind of like they, once they obtain a certain level of success, they stop trying to be really funny. Sure. In many ways, cause they don’t have to. They don’t have to, their audience is going to eat it up no matter what. Yeah. Um, which was like, I wonder what I will be if that, if that day comes, you know, I’m like, God, I hope I try to keep doing good at comedy. Well I mean,

Speaker 1: (32:35)

you know, let’s, I know you are not a self deprecating person. No not at all. You’ve like done some really cool ****, like you know, I, so I first heard you when you did some standup on two dope Queens and um, which is, you know, when I became the fan, I didn’t start stalking you until after. It’s good you got to give a little space. A little mystery with the stalker behavior. So still everyone knows, um, everyone knows I used to work at mitú a digital media company and I was an executive there and um, Marcella walks in and I had already was already a fan and I look over and I’m like, Oh my God, it’s Marcella. What a loser. And I was like so such a loser and I didn’t want to say anything to you cause like that’s unprofessional. Right. So I did the next best thing, which was like send a total random DM to you. Yeah and I was like cool thanks.

Speaker 3: (33:35)

Through Instagram.

Speaker 1: (33:36)

I’m total fangirling. By the way, that is reserved for only the most special people because I don’t do those things. I appreciate it. But you know, a big part of it was because I, you know, you’re, you’re set on um, on two dope Queens. You don’t know the ethnicity of the person. Sure. Cause you’re talking about the podcast. Because it’s radio. Yeah. You’re talking about the podcast. I’ve done the HBO series. Yes, but that’s not where I first heard you. I heard you on the podcast. Long time ago. Yes. I remember having the flu or something. When I, when um, I taped that epsoide. I don’t even remember. It was a hilarious. It was a really good time. But it was also the things that you were talking about were I totally identified with, right. Because you were talking about a lot of kind of like culturally related things and, and I think at one point you did say you were Latina and I was like

Speaker 3: (34:20)

I knew, you know, and I was like, Oh my god a Latina. And I was like so

Speaker 1: (34:25)

excited. And then of course became a fan. Great. I’m only like vaguely stalker-ish I guess. So, you know, but that’s like one. Rude. So one of the things is for people who are listening, she was like indicating that maybe I was slightly crazy, which I mean, I guess I kind of am, um, so you do women crush Wednesdays on, on at the Hollywood improv. You can talk about that. You’ve been on two dope Queens, you’ve done the HBO and the podcast. You’ve been with Wyatt Cenac on stars. Um, you’ve written for Bill Nye saves the world. Um, and obviously like Bill Nye could not have been funny on his own. So now we know why he was so funny. I don’t take all the credit. I mean, you’ve worked with Amy Schumer, Tiffany Haddish, Ali Wong. I mean, it’s just like this list is super never ending. I’m tired. Yeah, I mean, I think you’re a celebrity, but maybe. I don’t. You haven’t hit, people don’t think you’ve had celebrity status. My mom doesn’t. My mom doesn’t think it then it’s not true. Your dad probably still thinks it’s a bad idea. My dad is dead. My father is dead. Okay, well then he’s not telling you it’s a bad idea. So yeah. Like what, tell me about these projects and what’s next. Oh God, there’s so much in four minutes. No,

Speaker 2: (35:37)

I’m kidding. I’m like 10. Uh, yeah. I mean, I have a lot going on right now. I’m working on projects that we’re hoping to sell, you know, and hopefully get on TV, but they’re, you know, in this industry, you don’t know. Um, but women crush Wednesdays at cool because it’s every Wednesday at the Hollywood improv lab and it’s just stand up. It’s only women and it’s so fun. It’s usually fun. Sometimes it’s not fun, but mostly it’s a really good time. And, um, I created that show, like almost like for the, the, the girl that moved to LA at the beginning, you know, who couldn’t get booked on a good show. And so I’m, I’m constantly trying to encourage women who don’t have a lot going on to submit to the show. Yeah. Because I also know that like sometimes those seven minutes at a good show, it keeps you going for like six months. Dude. You just are like, you ride that high and it keeps you going. And it feels so good, especially in the early years nowadays I’m like, Oh God, I killed it. Okay. Next show. You know, like it’s so there’s so much going on, but um, yeah, so try not to take any writing jobs cause I hate writing for television. It’s really not that fun unless it’s like for a friend or for myself. Sure. Um, yeah. Trying to sell some shows. I have a new series on All Things comedy called You Welcome. Oh yeah, I saw that. I actually wrote that down.

Speaker 1: (36:45)

Um, you just recently tweeted you are a prolific tweeter so if people want to follow her. Follow Marcella on Twitter. @Marcellacomedy. You can find her there. Um, that you talk about this on woke bully, by the way. I’ve listened to woke bully a couple of times. Um, and y’all need to download and you need to find Woke Bully. It’s on all, um, streaming services. It is hilarious. Um, but you also talk about a little

Speaker 2: (37:16)

incident that you had because, um, and I thought the title was super appropriate. Woke Bully. My Dad is the original woke bully. My dad was. That, Oh my gosh, that totally makes sense now that you’ve just explained and talked about your dad. He was very antigovernment, you know, and you know, he, he, he was, uh, and he was very opinionated and, but he was also like, you’ve got to support small businesses. You got to like support people. You got to help people. You go look out for people. And, um, and he was also like, you know, anti racist cops, you know, which is most of them. And, um, so he was very vocal and I was always listening. That was a thing. It’s like, I think he didn’t realize how much I was paying attention when he would go on his rants. You know, George Carlin was his favorite comedian.

Speaker 2: (38:00)

Um, so I was very informed at a very young age. Very paradoxical kind of person, you know, like toxic masculinity, but then also, so not necessarily the best feminist, but yeah, definitely pro social justice. The thing is, and the argument I make for my own dad is that he was a feminist because he helped my mom. He encouraged her to get an education, you know, because she was I think 19 when they met and you know, he kind of snatched her up, which is what you do in El Salvador in the seventies and eighties. Like that wasn’t weird back then. Um, it’s probably still not werid now. And uh, he like, he would tell her, what are you going to do when I die? What are you going to do when I die? You need to have an education. You need to, cause my dad started a family business and he was like, and you need to be a part of this business.

Speaker 2: (38:45)

You need to make your own money. You need to be able to stand on your own, which is the most feminist shit a man could do for his wife. Yeah, definitely. And especially a, a woman that, you know, with minimal education from the third world country, like not everybody encourages that in their, in their partners. So it’s, you know, it’s one of those things where I’m like, men, a lot of men have that issue where it’s like they can’t see feminism beyond the women in their lives, which is why it’s like we can’t just do cancel culture with all the men that are being dumb-asses about women. Absolutely. Because they do kind of make those changes within their mothers wives, daughters, you know, as we all know, a daughter changes a man most of the time. Not always, but most of the time. Yeah. And they do start seeing things differently. Correct. Yeah. And so like that’s why I’m, I’m very much like we can’t cancel every man that says some dumb shit

Speaker 1: (39:33)

because you know. I 1000% agree. I, you know, one, first of all, we have to allow people to get better. You know what I mean? Like it’s one thing to, there’s some things that are so egregious and so heinous. Right. There has to be accountablility. Shout-out to Bill Cosby. Right. What a piece of ****. Gotta be accountability and like, yes, you are canceled and also you’re going to prison. Right like it’s those things. You’re going to die in prison. Right. But then there’s like the lower level, right. Where it’s like, okay, yeah, like they might’ve screwed up once or they might have done some bad behavior over a certain amount of time, but they recognize it. They’re wanting to learn, they’re listening, you know, someone changed their life, whatever. You know what I mean? And like, like how are we, where are we going to end up if we’re not giving people the opportunity to be better? Because then you’re encouraging them to be more toxic because they’re like, well, might as well ****.

Speaker 1: (40:21)

Yeah. Cause everybody hates me anyway. But you know, that’s what I really love about, you know, some of your commentary and if you’re not following her on Twitter, you absolutely. I just tweeted today, uh, it’s, it’s good to know that, um, I’d be a mother of 12 if I didn’t have any rights. Right? Yes. I’d be really good mother of 12. I don’t know that you’d be a good mother of 12. I would. I mean, you know, I think it’s debatable. Wow. Okay. I gotta go. No, I’m sure you’ll be amazing. Um, but you know, I agree with, with what you say so often, you know, you talk about this in woke bully where you say that, uh, the left is too scary and they’re just too afraid of their own shadows, which like a thousand percent. Right. And the right, the extreme right. Not like, you know what used to be what we consider normal, republicans. Yeah or conservatives, but like full on racist, like just some crazy shit going down. That’s their personality. They’re eating our lunch, they’re a thousand percent eating our lunch. Right. And you are constantly kind of saying like, look, I, yes, I’m a comedian, but I’m also kind of telling the truth often. Right, right. And, and that kind of got,

Speaker 2: (41:34)

well that did get you in some hot water. Always gets me in hotwater. It depends on his reading. The thing that you talk about in Woke Bully was the tweet about the shooting that occurred during the congressional baseball. Yes. Match. Yeah. The senators. Do you want to say what you said? What did I say? I don’t remember if I said something like, um, you said that if an old white, if, if, if a few old white conservative, if a few old, I don’t remember what I said. You said something like if it takes a few old white conservatives being murdered for gun violence reform, oh yes, I’m willing to take that risk. You’re willing to take that risk. Yeah it was a stupid tweet. And literally everybody just lost their minds. Well the right wing got ahold of it and they found out that I was a writer at bill Nye at the same time and goes kind of around the same time I think.

Speaker 2: (42:20)

And um, and they hate Bill Nye cause he’s so feminist liberal, like he’s a good man and loves science believes in science. Wow what a concept. Um, and so, uh, yeah, they like, I mean I was, it was and it was funny too be. Was it hard at all though? I mean I know you say it was funny and not, but no, like none of it was hard. No I when I tell you that other people’s opinion of me, doesn’t matter. I mean like maybe my mom and even that’s starting to like dissolve. Um, but like I, you know, I care about what my nieces and nephews think about me and how they perceive me, but um, cause they’re children and I want them to be good when they grow up. But like, yeah, I don’t care. But you have to understand, I found out my brother was an internet troll quite a few years ago.

Speaker 2: (43:07)

One of my brothers like goes online and just, he’s like, Oh, I just see the opposite thing a person believes just to piss them off. And I was like, what? You’re like why. It was watching it unfolded. I was like, this is crazy. But it was fascinating to watch cause he was like, no emotion doing it. And I learned a lot about trolls that day, but also, you know, these people, they, that’s, that’s their life. It’s pretty pathetic when you think about, you know, like this is what they do with their free time. But also like, yeah, we’re in an opioid epidemic. Imagine living in the middle of the country and you don’t have anything to do. Like where unemployment is where it’s at and you don’t have any opportunities and you know, w whether you’re white or non, like if you’re poor, like yeah, that is what you’re going to do.

Speaker 2: (43:50)

You’re going to go online and be mad at some comedian you’d never heard of saying some **** that doesn’t actually apply to you. Right. You know? Um, and it doesn’t, it doesn’t bother me. It really doesn’t bother me. In fact, I that weekend, um, that like they got ahold of it and then Tucker Carlson and put it on his show on Friday night and I was like about to get on a flight. But as soon as you know, when you’re like, you lose a reception on your phone and the plane, it was like, right then I found out Tucker Carlson had blasted it. So I like lost reception and I was like, Oh, this is going to be exciting to like land and see what nonsense is going on online. But like, it doesn’t bother me unless someone is like really doing like death threats or saying some really wild **** like, you know. They tried to break into I think my Instagram account, but they couldn’t. So, and it’s fine. I can retrieve all that. Right. It’s a nonissue. It doesn’t bother me. It shouldn’t bother people. I wish that more people didn’t care what anyone, especially online is thinking about them. Yeah. Didn’t care what people in their life thought about them. Um, and as long as you’re not being a crazy piece of **** like, you know, you should really, if you know you’re living a good life, you shouldn’t be worried about other people think about you.

Speaker 1: (44:57)

No, I think that’s right. And you know, unfortunately we have to, we have to call it. I know I’m so sad. Um, but no, that’s, that’s exactly right. I mean, and that’s just, we talk about that so often on this show. You know, that it’s like what others are thinking and what others are doing is a reflection of themselves and nothing else. Right. Like, you know, you got to do, you, you’ve got to live in, in your identity, in what you believe in, what makes you happy, et cetera, and just move forward and, you know, stop like buying into this manufactured social media lives that people present for everybody, et cetera. And yeah, no, I, I, I wish I could be, I’m getting there, you know, I’m definitely working on myself. Um, but I’m every day reminding myself, you know, to frankly live the way that you’re, you live online.

Speaker 1: (45:43)

Think about Trump lives that way. Right. And if he can live that way you should be living that way. You got to think about it that way. Exactly like, as long as you’re good people, yeah, you should be focused on you and you only because everything else is a reflection of somebody else and pissing people off is, should make you laugh. Well, that being said, okay, women crush Wednesdays. I love it. I just, the concept of women supporting women. Have you been? I’m not, but I’m going to go, I know. Well, well, well. Oh no. I know, I know it’s been on my calendar for, so long. You gotta come. Zero excuse. September 18th is a really special show you should come to that one. Okay. All right. Very special. I’m there. I’m there. We’re going to be there. I’m going to take like everybody, everybody, you’re welcome. Join me. We’re going to be there. Tickets are only $10. Like there’s zero. There’s no literally no excuse. No drink minimum. Which doesn’t happen in comedy clubs. Yeah, absolutely. It is like you just have to go and be entertained. Like there’s no negatives here. Um, women crush Wednesdays every single Wednesday. Every Wednesday, every Wednesday. Whether I’m there or not it still happens. Okay, good. Because, so you don’t necessarily have to be there because you book it, I book it. You book all the talent. I host it and sometimes they close it out because hosting is a lot of work. Right. Are you going to host on the 18th yes. Okay. was gonna say cause otherwise I’m not going.

Speaker 2: (46:53)

But like my, my, my friend Lydia Popovich, she’s a really great comic. I take her on the road with me and she hosts when I’m not there. And Katie McVeigh is the other person that it also hosts when I’m not there. And they both been on my series. You Welcome.

Speaker 1: (47:04)

Um which is on allthingscomedy.com. So check that out. Okay, so all things, that was the next thing. All things comedy, which is a video podcast that you’re doing. Um, any other new projects that we should, that people should know about right now?

Speaker 2: (47:18)

I don’t think so. I think those are like the main, um, I’m working on new material. Getting a new hour ready.

Speaker 1: (47:24)

Are you gonna go on tour anytime soon? I’m doing a couple of dates here and there. I’ll probably go on tour in 2020. Okay. If anyone wants to find more information, they can go to marcellacomedy.com. I have a really bad problem of saying everyone’s name and like full on Spanish. I perfer Marcella Josefina Arguello, what a beautiful name I have. It is a beautiful name actually. So MarcellaArguello.com, Marcellacomedy.com. Oh, I’m sorry. Marcella comedy. I’m sorry. I have not had coffee. I haven’t eaten. Not a good fan. Not the fan she claims to be. I’m being a terrible host. If I had glasses I would pull them down. You know what don’t send me a nasty tweet. Be nice. All right. All right everyone. Deal. Thank you so much. Thank you for having me. Yeah, this was amazing, and I think everyone’s gonna really enjoy it and I’m looking forward to just all the really cool stuff that you have going on in the future. Thank you. Yeah thanks. Thanks. [closing music].

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If Latinos in the U.S. were an independent country, their GDP would be 5th in the world, beating the United Kingdom, France, and India. That’s what this study found in 2023, and it speaks to how productive Latinos are in the U.S. That said, the wage gap for Latinos is still a major issue, with them earning 32% less than their white counterparts. Knowing that, it comes as no surprise that the wealth gap between Latino families and white families has surpassed $1 million, according to a recent report from the LA Times.


The Wage Gap

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For Latinas, the wage gap is quite concerning. On average, they only make 57 cents for every dollar a man makes. That’s fueled by a combination of factors, including systemic oppression, xenophobia, and the need for greater financial literacy. For many Latinas, this combination of factors has reawakened the effects of the generational trauma that comes from financial hardship.

But in the face of these reports and statistics, there’s a growing group of Latinas making space for themselves and other women of color in the personal finance world. While the financial services industry has historically looked white and male, Latinas are showing up on social media platforms to teach other women how to build wealth not only for themselves but for generations to come.

From investing to eliminating debt, these Latinas are tackling a subject that remains taboo in many Latino families out of fear of being considered greedy or too ambitious. Here are five Latinas who are creating financial literacy courses, using social media platforms to connect with their audience, and sharing their own personal finance stories along the way.

​Jully-Alma Taveras​ 

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Jully-Alma Taveras is the self-described JLo of personal finance. A Dominican raised in New York, Taveras created Investing Latina in 2019 to teach Latinas how to start investing in the stock market. She began investing at age 19, becoming the first person in her family to open a retirement account. Her Youtube channel has nearly 60 videos of free content, including responses to questions that come directly from her followers, and she regularly breaks down complex financial topics into Instagram posts that are easy to understand. As a personal finance expert, she inspires women to spend intentionally and have a minimalist lifestyle so they can invest more. Her focus is on introducing women to investing so they can take their first steps toward financial freedom.

Anna N’Jie-Konte 

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Anna N’Jie-Konte is a first-generation American of Puerto Rican and Gambian descent. She’s a certified financial planner and fiduciary dedicated to facilitating the economic liberation of people of color. N’Jie-Konte is a native New Yorker who worked in the financial services industry before launching her own firm, Re-Envision Wealth, where she offers wealth management services. She also uses her platform on Instagram to offer insights about finances for small business owners. More recently, she announced “The Financial Powerhouse: The Club,” a no-fluff community for people who want to learn about wealth-building tools and have more in-depth conversations about financial fluency, and more.

Jannese Torres

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Jannese Torres is the host of “Yo Quiero Dinero”, a personal finance podcast created for Latinas and people of color. An engineer by day and self-described side hustle guru, she advises Latinas to build multiple streams of income and teaches money-making strategies to help women succeed. Torres, a first-generation Puerto Rican woman, is also a fierce advocate of investing with the goal of early retirement. Her content on Instagram, TikTok, and the podcast addresses topics from tackling debt to estate planning to financial independence and more. Recently, Torres became an author with “Financially Lit!” the ultimate guide for modern Latinas to become financially powerful.

Delyanne Barros 

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Photo by Delyanne Barros

Delyanne Barros went from attorney to money coach, and she’s dedicated to helping investors take the stock market by storm. Barros, who spent her early years in Brazil before growing up as an undocumented immigrant in Miami, first invested about $50K a few months before the pandemic led to a market crash. She overcame that by growing that amount to over $425K – all while paying off over $100K in student debt. Today, Barros advocates for investing for retirement with low-cost index funds. Her following has increased consistently on TikTok and Instagram, where she regularly shares brief videos and posts explaining the stock market, breaking down investing myths and updating her audience on news that may affect their finances. Barros doesn’t gatekeep her knowledge, offering a free class, Invest for Independence®, to introduce people to the stock market in a way that finally makes sense.

Linda Garcia 

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Photo by Linda Garcia

Linda Garcia, a Californian with roots in Mexico, began investing several years into her career as a marketing executive in television and film. She’s dedicated to helping the Latino community restructure their generational beliefs on finance and she introduces people to the stock market so they can achieve their dreams. Her “Wealth Warrior” course not only breaks the stock market down but also helps children of immigrants address their toxic relationship with money. Garcia is the founder of In Luz We Trust, an online community where she shares a wealth of resources. She’s also the co-host of the "Investies" podcast, which offers insights into the current stock market and the state of the economy.

These five Latinas are only a few among a growing community focused on creating generational wealth. But this wave of personal finance Latinidad comes at a time when Latinas and Black women across the United States continue making cents on the dollar that white men earn.

Next time you feel anxious about your finances, look them up to learn how to take control of money and heal your relationship with it. And remember – the wage gap that Latinas and other women of color experience can only be narrowed if we talk about money. So let’s build our emergency savings funds, address our debt, and invest in the stock market so we can build the generational wealth that will help our families for years to come.

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Recent data from the Consumer Price Index (CPI) revealed that prices increased by 3.2 percent between February 2023 and February 2024. In terms of inflation, that’s a notable decrease from the 9.1 percent increase recorded in June 2022. However, inflation being down doesn’t necessarily mean the cost of living is getting lower. Quite the contrary–factors like income stagnation, transportation expenses, housing costs, and debt burden, among others, make living in the U.S. very expensive. In fact, The U.S. is currently the 20th most expensive country to live in according to a report from CEOWORLD Magazine.

With this in mind, it’s not surprising that Americans seem to be flocking to Latin America to retire, work, enjoy a lower cost of living, and even invest. Looking at Mexico City alone, the number of Americans who applied for residency visas or renewed them rose by 70% between 2019 and 2022, as reported by CNBC. It’s worth noting that the influx of Americans, including digital nomads, has sparked gentrification concerns among locals.

The disparity in income between Americans and locals increases tensions, leading to rising rents and displacement of native residents. While Airbnb and the Mexican government promote the city as a remote work hub, locals demand regulation to preserve their communities.

Another thing worth noting is that while Americans who relocate to Latin America in search of a more comfortable life are called “expats” (short for expatriate), Latinos who do the same by relocating to the United States are called “immigrants.” But what makes one an expat and the other an immigrant? The basic definition of expat is a person who lives outside of their native country temporarily, usually referring to workers. With this definition, it follows that any person who leaves their country to work in another for a time would be an expat.

In reality, that’s not the case and expat is usually a term that’s reserved for western white people. For Latinos, Asians, Arabs, and Africans, the term tends to be immigrant, no matter the context.

Technically speaking, there is a difference between the terms expat and immigrant. The immigrant lives permanently in another country and may seek citizenship, while the expat lives and/or works in another country. They may or may not stay indefinitely. However, the distinction isn’t made based on whether the terms are used correctly or not, the distinction is made based on social class, economic status, country of origin, and education level. The terms have become hierarchical and implicit bias is the reason why Westerners are always expats, and everyone else is an immigrant.

You could be a highly educated Latino living in the U.S. because you were sent to work there in a multinational organization, and you wouldn’t be perceived as an expat - you would be perceived as an immigrant. At best, you would be perceived as a qualified immigrant. Were you a white person, whether you’re educated or not, whether you have a high-paying job or not, there’s no doubt you would be perceived as an expat across the board. That’s how race, education level, and income are used as indicators to distinguish between people.

At the end of the day, the fact is that expats are immigrants. The real difference is that they’re leaving their country because they can. Because they want to work abroad, want to take advantage of Latin America’s lower cost of living to take the most advantage of their dollars, or simply because they want a change of scenery. Most Latin Americans and other people of color who leave their countries do so out of necessity because the alternative of staying is unsustainable for them. Whether that’s because of poverty, food insecurity, violence, political persecution, or even war, the fact is that they leave to truly seek a better life.

As of 2024, there are 20.4 million Latino immigrants living in the U.S. As for international immigrants, the count was nearly 46.2 million in 2022. While the word immigrant may carry some negative connotations due to implicit bias and systemic racism may be reserved for people of color, being an immigrant is nothing to be ashamed of. People from all over the world and from all walks of life partake in immigration. Especially now that many are embracing a more nomadic lifestyle with the rise of remote work. As such, it’s important to recognize subtly racist distinctions and call them out to prevent the prevalence of the “them versus us” narrative.

Few words are as prominent as “gratitude,” especially in the Latino community. We’re constantly reminded to be grateful for everything we have. While the practice is encouraged as a habit for improved mental health and it’s indeed important to be grateful, there are healthy limits to how grateful one should be. Enter toxic gratitude, which isn’t defined by a genuine sense of thankfulness, but by a sense of forced obligation.

There isn’t much research about toxic gratitude amongst Latinos, but culturally speaking, it’s not uncommon for both non-U.S. born and U.S. born Latinos to be discouraged from asking for what they actually deserve in the workplace, or be told not to make any waves and avoid any potential problems.

Where does the Latino gratitude problem come from and how does it negatively impact Latino social, economic, and personal progress?

The toxic gratitude problem

The difference between gratitude and toxic gratitude lies in intention. Where gratitude comes naturally, stemming from a genuine sense of thankfulness, toxic gratitude is something we force on ourselves to either suppress negative emotions or ignore real problems. For example, you’re a Latino in the corporate world and you’ve been climbing that ladder. Lately, you’ve been working yourself even further to the bone because you’re aiming for a coveted promotion.

When the time comes, the promotion goes to your white co-worker, who happens to be well-connected and hasn’t put in even half the work you have. That would make you feel all kinds of frustrated, angry, exhausted, and sad. In turn, these emotions would make you want to do something, like talking to your manager about it or even considering looking for a job in a company that will value your efforts.

Instead of feeling those emotions and potentially taking action, the voice in your head goes: “Everything happens for a reason, I should just be grateful for what I have. Thank God I even have a job.” While that’s a seemingly harmless thought, it’s a form of self-repression. Not only are you telling yourself that it’s not okay to feel how you feel, but you’re also talking yourself out of advocating for what you know you deserve.

That voice in your head has probably been nurtured by your Latino parents and grandparents, who have taught you that you have to work for what you want, but you also have to keep your head down. If you prove yourself through your work, the people in power will notice and eventually lift you up. Your work will speak for you and your time will come, so you shouldn’t complain. These are usually the values instilled in us, but are they helpful in every context? If we’re always taking things on the chin instead of standing up for ourselves when it counts, how can change ever be made?

Where does the Latino gratitude problem stem from?

We consider there are two main reasons for the Latino gratitude problem. One reason is catholicism, which is the main religion in Latin America and in Latino communities around the world. While the number of Latinos without religious affiliations is growing, Catholics are still the largest religious group among Latinos in the U.S., according to an AP poll.

One of the core tenets of catholicism is that suffering is redemptive and it leads to salvation. With catholicism being so ingrained in Latino culture, we’re taught to believe that suffering is not a bad thing, it’s something to be offered to God and good things may come of it. That’s one of the reasons we’re told to be grateful for everything, even the injustices we may experience.

Another reason is that most Latinos, especially Latino immigrants who have moved to the U.S. or other countries in search of a better life, generally know how much worse things can be. Yes, you didn’t get the promotion you deserved, but are you starving? “Other people have it much worse than me” or “At least my situation is not as bad as someone else’s” are common thoughts, but they diminish our own experiences. We’re essentially telling ourselves that our problems aren’t significant enough to matter when compared to worse struggles.

It’s also the case that, most of the time, every single one of our victories and accomplishments is hard-won. Latinos in the U.S. have to work harder for the same opportunities, and that’s particularly true for Latinas. It’s understandable that, given all that hard work, we don’t want to fall into victimhood by whining about the things we don’t get or achieve. This is also something we learn from our parents and grandparents. However, it’s not victimhood if Latinos are consistently underpaid and unrecognized for their contributions.

Latino toxic gratitude is a personal and community disservice

With our “keep your head down attitude,” which is fueled by toxic gratitude beliefs, we’re actually being complicit with the systems that are keeping Latinos on the sidelines. There’s always room for genuine gratitude in our lives and practicing gratitude is, indeed, an empowering habit. However, it’s essential to recognize toxic gratitude and the ways in which it disables us from advocating for ourselves when we have to, making necessary demands, and asking for more than scraps. By looking out for ourselves and challenging the status quo in the workplace and beyond, we can uplift the entire community and be a catalyst for change. Our Latino parents and grandparents have taught us many powerful values, but the Latino gratitude problem is one that requires correction. It doesn’t serve us as well as we’re taught to believe it does. The sooner we open our eyes to that fact, the sooner we’ll be able to make much-needed mindset changes that will drive us forward rather than keep us in place.

Mother’s Day is a day meant to honor and celebrate the special bond we share with our mothers or mother figures. The holiday is celebrated on the second Sunday of May in the U.S. and in some Latin American countries, like Cuba, Chile, Colombia, Puerto Rico, Ecuador, Honduras, and Venezuela. However, some Latina mothers celebrate the holiday twice, depending on where they’re from. For example, mothers of Mexican, Guatemalan, or Salvadoran descent will also observe Mother’s Day on May 10, so it’s a double celebration for them. Argentina, Costa Rica, Nicaragua, Bolivia, Dominican Republic, Paraguay, and Panama have their own dates as well.

Usually, Mother’s Day is all about connecting with our mothers and pampering them throughout the day. For many Latina daughters, though, it’s not a happy occasion. Mother’s Day can be very complicated when your relationship with your mother is not a healthy one and you’ve made the decision to break or diminish ties with her. That’s the reality for many Latinas who have prioritized their own mental health and well-being by creating solid boundaries.

Marianismo often plays a role in difficult mother-daughter relationships. Rooted in Christianity, or rather the Roman Catholic beliefs the Spanish indoctrinated their newly conquered native subjects with during colonialism, marianismo is the other side of machismo. It defines gender-based expectations for Latin American women and it’s deeply ingrained in Latino culture. It’s because of marianismo that Latina women are taught from a young age that they have to be submissive, self-sacrificing, and pure. In other words, they have to be quiet instead of loud, weak instead of strong and are consistently discouraged from being independent, sexual, opinionated, and a host of other empowered traits.

The idea behind marianismo is to be more like the Virgin Mary, a figure that’s considered to be the epitome of purity and goodness. Whether the messaging is subtle or explicit, marianismo in the Latino household imposes a narrow concept of what it means to be a woman and it reinforces powerlessness. It’s important to note that marianismo is not a burden every Latina carries, but many of them do.

In Latin American countries, society helps reinforce marianismo. In the U.S., things are slightly different, which is why first-generation immigrants break away from it more effectively. But this sometimes also means breaking away from their mothers, who often refuse to confront their harmful marianismo beliefs.

There’s no denying that the mother-daughter bond is one of the most important in a woman’s life. For Latinas in particular, mothers are highly influential figures in our lives. But what if your relationship with your mother is toxic and complicated? In Latino culture, it’s taboo to say anything negative about our mothers. Being critical of them means you’re “ungrateful,” but the truth is that some mothers fail their daughters. Especially in helping them foster an independent sense of self. Some mothers want their daughters to be a certain way instead of allowing them to be their own person, which is why they’re often critical and overly demanding.

Many Latinas have grown up with mothers who are too comfortable pointing out their flaws or dictating how they should be or act. This leads to constant opposition and a constant struggle to just be yourself. It makes many Latina daughters feel that who they are at their core is not good enough and fosters self-doubt at a level that affects everything else in their lives. Even as adults, we want our mothers to approve of us and love us for who we are, but there comes a time when enough is enough. There’s only so much toxic criticism one can take.

This is what leads many Latina daughters to cut ties with their mothers, however painful that may be. Needless to say, estrangement is frowned upon in the Latino community because we place a lot of value on family. “It doesn’t matter what we do to each other, at the end of the day, we’re family.” That’s the kind of mindset most Latinos have, but it’s neither healthy nor realistic. The way we treat each other matters and being related doesn’t mean we can get away with harmful behavior.

In general, estrangement is seen as extreme and as a problem in itself. However, for many, estrangement is the solution and the relief they’ve been searching for. Make no mistake, the dilemma Latina daughters are often faced with is unsolvable. Choosing between having a relationship with your mother and doing what’s best for your own life isn’t as easy as it seems. However, it’s often the only thing left to do after you’ve tried everything else to have a better relationship with your mother.

There comes a point where you’re better off without them in your life. That’s a harsh truth to face because, even if estrangement is what’s best for you, you both lose something. But for many Latinas, that loss is a new beginning. It’s a weight lifted off their shoulders and a deep sigh of relief. It’s sad and tragic that it has to end that way, but it’s better than the alternative of maintaining that toxic mother-daughter relationship.

On a larger scale, estrangement can help the Latino culture heal in the long term. Setting boundaries with our families, which isn’t something we’re encouraged to do in the Latino community, means we’re no longer letting abuse slide. The romanticization of family bonds and self-sacrifice doesn’t have the same hold. Rejecting that romanticization and rejecting marianismo is a way to help break the cycle.

Intergenerational emotional and psychological abuse has to be confronted and, sometimes, extreme measures are the only way to help the older generation face their harmful beliefs and values, and reframe what needs to be reframed. Setting boundaries is a shock to the system; a shock that lets our mothers and everyone else in our families know what kind of behavior isn’t acceptable anymore and never should’ve been in the first place. After that, the ball is in their court. They can either adapt or lose the privilege of being a part of your life.

While, for some, Mother’s Day is a celebration of the bonds they share with their mothers, for others, it’s a reminder of the breaking of those bonds. Whatever side you’re on, remember that love and respect is a two-way street.

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One thing about adult women is that most, if not all, can report having had terrible dates, and are trying to avoid them whenever possible. More importantly, in their quest for companionship, women are simply trying to stay safe out there. Statistically speaking, men’s violence against women is the biggest threat to their safety and well-being. Looking at domestic violence stats alone, 1 in 4 women have experienced severe physical violence from an intimate partner. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1 in 3 Latinas will experience intimate partner violence in their lifetime.


Femicide is no longer an issue that mostly affects low-income communities or foreign countries, and that hasn’t been the case for over twenty years. A 2002 global study found that among 25 of the highest-income countries in the world, the United States only had 32% of the female population, yet shockingly, accounted for 70% of all female homicides that occurred in those 25 countries. In 2021, the femicide rate in the U.S. was found to be at 2.9 per 100,000 women. It’s also worth noting that the United States lacks an effective way of defining, tracking, and documenting femicide. This lack of an accurate classification in the criminal justice and public health systems is a big hurdle in getting the full scope of the femicide problem in the U.S.

On an expanded global scale, an estimated 47,000 women and girls were killed by intimate partners or family members in 2020 alone. That means one woman or girl is killed somewhere in the world every 11 minutes. In 2021, the Bureau of Justice Statistics showed that the percentage of women murdered by an intimate partner was 5 times higher than for males. Men are also victims of domestic abuse and violence but at a significantly lower rate than women.

Psychological violence is also a significant problem for women, with nearly half of all women (48.5%) in the U.S. experiencing psychological aggression from a partner in their lifetime. The statistics are objectively terrifying. However, the overwhelming majority of women don’t need to know the stats to feel unsafe; they live the stats every day of their lives.

The recent viral conversation of Man vs. Bear is an indicator of how universal the fear of men is among women. The hypothetical question posed by the pop culture account Screenshot HQ has been liked 2.2 million times and has 72 thousand comments.

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When men were asked if they would rather their daughters be stuck in the woods with a man or a bear, many chose the bear as well. Why? Commentators have noted that men are unpredictable and are more likely to be a bigger threat than wild animals. Women are choosing the bears not because they think they would actually survive a bear attack but because men attack women unprovoked and for reasons that are often associated with the mere fact of just being a woman and nothing else.

The Dating Hellscape

Dating is an emotional risk for both men and women; that’s clear. For women, however, the safety risk is undeniably greater than for men. In a world where dating has largely shifted into virtual spaces where all you have to go on is a few phrases and some photos, there’s no real way to determine if a man “looks” violent at worst or is a lying manipulator at best.

When Paola Sanchez launched the group “Are We Dating the Same Guy?”, women in the millions flocked to the groups. To date, there are over 200 Facebook groups with over 4 million members worldwide. Sanchez describes the groups as “Red Flag Awareness groups around the world where women can empower each other and keep each other safe from dangerous or toxic men.”

It’s a simple premise that has resulted in significant controversy, especially as stories of leaked posts that led to harassment and even violence from the men who found out about them emerge. There are also emotional and legal issues that some women have had to contend with as a result of their posts.

While the title of the group implies that the focus is on avoiding dating the same guy who is cheating with multiple women, the focus of most conversations is actually on discussing dating experiences. Women use these spaces to share red flags, post men’s dating profiles showing the first name only and photos (doxing is prohibited), and share their stories in hopes of saving other women from bad dating experiences, falling for catfishing and lies, cheating, catching sexually transmitted diseases, or encountering potentially dangerous men. Many women have, indeed, been saved from all of these things, which is why the groups are so popular.

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Ever since the AWDTSG groups entered the scene, many men have actively opposed the groups, claiming they’re toxic spaces where gossip thrives. Some of the claims have led to consequences for men in real life, such as losing relationships, being questioned by employers, and more. They have also led to consequences for women, who have been confronted by men they’ve discussed in the groups. Some have even been sued.

On one hand, critics of the groups have argued that it’s very difficult to verify what every person posts on the AWDTSG groups and that some women may have reasons to fabricate stories. Also, mental health practitioners have noted that a Facebook group likely isn’t the best space to discuss traumatic dating or relationship experiences. On the other hand, there are thousands of testimonials from members of the groups that have said the information they found saved them from unsavory experiences in the dating scene. Women have also reported cutting off men whom they were social friends with after they found out about instances of alleged abuse or misbehavior.

The Legal Battles and Outcomes

One of the men affected by the AWDTSG groups decided to sue. Stewart Lucas Murrey sued over 50 women in California for defamation, alleging sex-based discrimination and civil conspiracy. However, a judge recently dismissed the lawsuit against one of the women, Vanessa Valdez, who filed an anti-SLAPP motion arguing against censorship. Despite Murrey’s claims, the judge found no evidence of conspiracy and ruled in favor of free speech, emphasizing the importance of protecting women's security against harassment. Murrey vowed to continue his legal battle, but legal experts note the difficulty of defamation lawsuits, especially in cases involving online speech.

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This isn’t the first defamation lawsuit made against women from an AWDTSG group. In Chicago, Nikko D'Ambrosio filed a lawsuit against 27 women over an allegedly defamatory post stating he sent harassing messages to women and was otherwise just a really low-quality and selfish person to date. D'Ambrosio's attorneys argued his reputation was damaged and sought intervention from Facebook and Meta. This lawsuit was eventually dismissed.

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But as reported by “Tech Dirt,” “apparently D’Ambrosio is the kind of guy who won’t take no for an answer… Even from judges. He’s apparently the kind of guy that when his number gets blocked or his case gets thrown out, he’ll just text from a different number or file a brand new case.” D’Ambrosio refiled his case to attempt to relitigate whether his status as a serial ghoster is in fact warranted.

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When an overwhelming amount of women are choosing bear over men in hypothetical woods, and groups like “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” aren’t only racking up the legal wins but also racking up their number of members, it’s a good indication that AWDTSG isn’t going anywhere. If anything, women will likely continue to band together in search of safe spaces, despite the potential risk of leaks, lawsuits, and being confronted by the men they expose.

In a world where women’s claims of harassment or abuse by men are consistently ignored, dismissed, or simply not believed, women are protecting each other, attempting to fulfill the lack of societal protections, and carrying the feminist legacy of consciousness-raising groups.

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We've all been there. The workplace can be a minefield of social cues, under-the-radar biases, and those sneaky "small" remarks that aren't so small after all - they're microaggressions. These little zingers can sting, especially when they're aimed at our identity, including our race or ethnicity. This time, we're pulling back the curtain on microaggressions faced by Latino people at work. We'll break it down with real-life examples, explore why these seemingly insignificant slights matter, and give you some tools to tackle this head-on.

Examples of Microaggressions

Here are some common microaggressions that Latino folks might encounter at the workplace:

  • Ethnic Stereotyping: "I bet you're a good dancer." “You don't look Latina." Colleagues or superiors may make comments or jokes that perpetuate stereotypes about Latino people. Examples include assuming all Latinos are good at dancing, suggesting that a Latino colleague must be "fiery" or "passionate," or associating Latinos only with manual labor positions.
  • Language Assumptions: "Your English is very good." "Say something in Spanish for me." There is often an assumption that all Latinos speak Spanish or have a 'Latin accent'. Conversely, Latinos who don't speak Spanish might be seen as 'less authentic'.
  • Assumptions about Legal Status: "So, where are you really from?" "Do you have a green card?" It's surprising how often Latino people get asked about their immigration status or where they're 'really' from. As if their nationality somehow needs further validation.
Exoticizing or Diminishing Cultural Heritage: “Your accent is so exotic.” "You must be really passionate." Comments that exoticize or minimize the diversity and complexity of Latino cultures, such as lumping all Latino cultures together or calling someone's food or accent "exotic," are common forms of microaggressions.

Why We Should Care

You might be thinking, "So what? These are just tiny slights. Why the fuss?" Microaggressions, although seemingly subtle or minor, can have a considerable impact on the recipients. These impacts can include:

  • Psychological Effects: Chronic exposure to microaggressions can lead to feelings of isolation, anxiety, and depression. It can also lead to lower self-esteem and self-efficacy.
  • Performance and Job Satisfaction: Ever tried to focus on work when you're stressed or upset? Not so easy, right? The stress and discomfort resulting from microaggressions can lead to decreased job satisfaction, lower performance, and higher turnover rates among Latino employees.
  • Organizational Culture: No one wants to work in a toxic environment, and a company's reputation can take a serious hit if it's known for microaggressions. A high prevalence of microaggressions can negatively impact the organization's culture, making it less inclusive and causing damage to its reputation.
  • Reduced Diversity: If unchecked, microaggressions can deter talented individuals from diverse backgrounds from joining or staying in an organization, reducing the diversity that drives innovation and growth.

How to Deal With Microaggressions

The good news? There are ways to address this issue. As an organization or employer, here are some of the steps you can take:

  • Awareness and Education: The first step towards addressing microaggressions is recognizing their existence and understanding their impacts. Workshops, seminars, or diversity training sessions can help with this.
  • Encourage Open Conversations: Provide safe spaces for employees to discuss incidents of microaggressions, how they feel, and how they would like the situations to be handled.
  • Establish and Enforce Policies: Organizations need clear, strict policies against all forms of microaggressions. These policies should include reporting mechanisms and fair consequences for those who violate the policies.
  • Support Affected Employees: Provide resources and support to employees who experience microaggressions. This could include counseling services, mediation, or reassurances of their value and belonging within the organization.
  • Promote Inclusive Leadership: Encourage leaders to set the tone for inclusive behavior. They should model respect for all individuals and cultures, demonstrate understanding and empathy, and take action when they witness microaggressions.

Dealing with microaggressions as an individual can be tricky. It requires a combination of self-care, assertive communication, and strategies to create change. Here are some tips:

  • Recognize and Validate Your Feelings: Understand that it's okay to be upset by microaggressions. They can be hurtful and demeaning. Don't dismiss your feelings or let others trivialize your experiences.
  • Assertive Communication: If you feel safe and comfortable doing so, address the microaggression directly with the person who committed it. They may not even be aware that their comment or action was offensive.
  • Educate Others: Use instances of microaggressions as teaching moments, if you feel up to it. Inform the person about what a microaggression is and why their comment or behavior is inappropriate. Remember, you're not obligated to educate others, but it can sometimes be a powerful tool for change.
  • Report the Incidents: If the microaggressions persist, consider reporting them to a supervisor, HR, or another appropriate entity within your organization. Be prepared to provide specific examples and express your concerns clearly.
  • Advocate for Change: Push for workplace policies that address microaggressions and support diversity, inclusion, and respect. This could mean advocating for diversity and sensitivity training, creating safe spaces for discussions about microaggressions, or contributing to the development of fair reporting and resolution procedures.

Microaggressions might seem like small stuff, but they're a big deal. By learning to recognize and address them, we can create a more respectful and inclusive work environment for everyone. Remember, it's not just about avoiding the paper cuts - it's about fostering a workplace where everyone feels valued and respected. And that, my friends, is a win-win for all.