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What does love look like in 2025? For many, it’s still the familiar image of two people committing to lifelong monogamy, sharing a home, and maybe even raising a family. But for a growing number of people, love is no longer confined to a single, traditional blueprint. As societal norms evolve, so do relationships, and more people are rethinking what commitment, partnership, romance, and fulfillment mean to them.
Some are embracing polyamory, open relationships, or swinging, finding joy in expanding their connections beyond a single partner. Others are choosing to forgo romance altogether, prioritizing friendships, careers, or self-discovery over traditional relationships. This shift is as much about personal preference as it is a reflection of deeper cultural changes, from shifting gender roles to the rejection of outdated expectations around marriage and monogamy.
This Valentine’s Day, we’re talking about love, and how it’s being reimagined.
The Rise of Nontraditional Relationships
For centuries, relationships followed a prescribed script: meet the right person, fall in love, get married, and stay together for life. But as society becomes more open-minded, people are realizing that love doesn’t have to look just one way. Unconventional relationships, including polyamory, open relationships, and relationship anarchy, are becoming increasingly common as people explore alternative ways to form connections.
One key driver behind the rise of nonconventional relationships is the broader societal shift toward open-mindedness and acceptance of diverse lifestyles. As the visibility of nontraditional relationships increases through media representation and public discourse, more people feel empowered to explore relationship structures other than monogamy and the traditional idea of romantic relationships.
The internet and social media have also played a crucial role in the growing interest and acceptance of nonconventional relationships. Access to information on different relationship styles has never been easier. This enables people to learn about and consider alternatives that feel more authentic to them.
Online communities provide support networks where people can share experiences, ask questions, and find validation in their choices. It’s also easier than ever to connect with like-minded individuals via dating apps that cater to different kinds of relationship structures. This connectivity has helped normalize nontraditional relationships, and it has created communities for those who choose to explore them.
Unconventional Relationship Models on the Rise
The stigma surrounding nontraditional relationships is fading, and more people are realizing that they have options beyond the one-size-fits-all version of love they were raised to believe in.
Not all nontraditional relationships look the same, though. Some prioritize emotional connections, others focus on sexual exploration, and many exist somewhere in between. The beauty of modern relationships is that they’re customizable, so what works for one person may not work for another, and that’s perfectly okay. As a result, there are quite a few alternative relationship models on the rise:
Polyamory
Polyamory, an umbrella term for relationships where both parties consent to romantic or sexual relationships with other people, is one of the most recognized forms of nontraditional relationships. It challenges the notion that love must be exclusive to one person and provides a framework where affection and emotional connections aren’t tied to societal expectations of monogamy.
A 2021 study suggested that approximately 5% of Americans practice polyamory, and 1 in 6 people are interested in it. Amy Hamilton, a research associate at the Austin Institute for the Study of Family and Culture at the University of Texas, explained this shift to World News Group, saying: “This design of male and female in a procreative union ordained by God [...] that’s no longer the thing we want. We want the freedom to self define, and to self express.”
Open Relationships
Open relationships share some similarities with polyamory but often differ in structure. While one or both partners are allowed to pursue romantic or sexual experiences outside their primary relationship, there’s typically still a central commitment between them.
This approach to relationships is becoming more widely accepted in recent years. A 2021 YouGov poll found that 25% of Americans express interest in open relationships, with millennials showing the highest level of interest at 41%. This is reflected in reports from dating apps like OkCupid and Hinge showing a rise in users considering non-monogamous arrangements.
Swinging
Swinger couples consensually engage in recreational sex with other people. This is one of the more established forms of consensual non-monogamy. It’s not as widely discussed as polyamory or open relationships, but it’s still one of the more popular alternative relationship models. Approximately 2.35% of American adults identify as swingers, 15% of couples have experimented with swinging, and 25% have expressed interest in trying it, according to the latest available stats.
Swinging suits couples who want to explore sex with other couples while maintaining a committed relationship. It shouldn’t be confused with “monogamish relationships,” which allow occasional one-time sexual experiences outside of an otherwise monogamous relationship.
A Growing Rejection of Tradition
At its core, the rise of nontraditional relationships is really about choice. People are no longer sticking to monogamy just because it’s expected of them. Instead, they’re questioning why specific relationship structures exist and whether those structures align with their values and desires.
This shift is deeply tied to changing gender roles. Historically, marriage and monogamy were essential for economic survival—especially for women. But as women gain more financial independence, access to education, and autonomy, they’re less reliant on traditional partnerships to secure their futures. This is one reason, among many, that there’s been a steep decline in marriage rates, particularly among Latinas, who have seen a 33% drop in marriage over the last 70 years.
At the same time, people across cultures are actively challenging societal norms and refusing to conform to outdated expectations that no longer serve them. Marriage is still common, but it’s no longer considered the only pathway to love and stability.
The Growing Trend of Opting Out of Romantic Relationships
Not everyone is interested in redefining relationships—some are choosing to step away from them entirely. A growing number of people, particularly women, are opting out of romantic relationships altogether. Whether they prioritize friendships, focus on career ambitions, or simply enjoy their independence, many are finding fulfillment outside of romantic love.
One emerging trend is platonic marriages, where two people—often close friends—choose to live together and share responsibilities like a married couple, but without the romantic or sexual element. This model offers emotional support, financial stability, and lifelong companionship, and it proves that fulfilling, deep, committed partnerships don’t have to be romantic.
Perhaps the biggest example of opting out of romantic relationships would be the 4B movement in South Korea, which stands for "no marriage," "no childbirth," "no dating," and "no sex.” This movement is rooted in resistance to societal pressures that prioritize marriage, childbearing, and traditional gender roles. Women who participate in it reject heterosexual dating, marriage, childbirth, and sexual relationships with men as a form of protest against patriarchy and gender inequality.
South Korea has one of the largest gender wage gaps among developed countries, with men earning 31.2% more than women on average. Additionally, misogyny and anti-feminist sentiments are widespread, particularly among younger men. This has contributed to the rise of the 4B movement, which emerged between 2015 and 2019 as a response to economic insecurity, gender-based violence, and societal expectations placed on women.
While supporters of the 4B movement see it as an act of resistance against societal norms, critics argue that it is an extreme reaction to gender inequality. Regardless of perspective, the movement reflects a growing willingness among women to challenge traditional relationship structures in pursuit of autonomy and self-determination.
The Bottom Line
From the increasing popularity of nontraditional relationship models to the growing trend of opting out of romantic relationships entirely, societal norms surrounding love, commitment, and companionship are being reexamined. The rise of nontraditional relationships and the rejection of outdated romantic norms are reshaping how we think about love, commitment, and fulfillment. This reshaping isn’t about abandoning love, but about owning it on personal terms. The idea that one type of relationship is “right” for everyone is fading, replaced by a more fluid, inclusive, and intentional approach to connection that suits the nuance of being human a lot better.
As more people explore alternatives to monogamy and traditional partnerships, the definition of what constitutes a meaningful relationship continues to expand. At the same time, individuals—particularly women—are finding fulfillment in ways that don’t rely on romantic relationships. This cultural shift toward prioritizing autonomy, personal well-being, and diverse forms of connection is how people are breaking the rules and reimagining what love means to them in modern society.
The real question may no longer be, “Who do you love?” but rather, “How do you want to love?”
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The quinceañera is one of the most cherished traditions in Latino culture, a grand celebration marking a girl’s coming of age at fifteen - though as culture and beliefs evolve, so has the focus of the celebration. Despite how racially diverse the Latino community is, some Afro or Black Latinas still experience implied or explicit racism on their special day.
Quinceañeras Are Cultural, Not Racial
The traditions of a quinceañera focus on, family, tradition, and religion. This rite of passage has deep roots in Latin America, where it symbolizes a young woman’s coming of age. Afro-Latinas, like all Latinas, are part of this tradition. Whether their ancestors hail from the Caribbean, South America, or anywhere else in the Latin American world, the quinceañera is just as much theirs as it is for anyone else. The same holds true for bi or multi-racial girls who grow up and adopt more than one cultural practice.
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Still, mainstream representations of quinceañeras have often left out Afro-Latinas. This has led to the erasure of Black Latinas from the broader conversation about Latinidad. hat’s changing. More Afro-Latina girls are proudly celebrating their quinceañeras and sharing their journeys online, and their presence is helping to reshape the narrative of what it means to be Latina.
@honey_robinson Still the best day everrr #quinceañera #quince #quincedress #blaxican #mixed #mexican #latina #spanish #relatable
For Afro-Latinas, this celebration enables them to express and honor their unique histories and roots. Many Afro-Latina quinceañeras bring their unique culture to the celebration through their choice of music, dance, fashion, and rituals. Beauty plays an essential role as well. In a culture that has historically favored Eurocentric beauty standards, Afro-Latinas are reclaiming their space by embracing their natural curls, braids, or protective styles on their big day. There’s no longer pressure to straighten their hair to "look the part."
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Representation Matters
More social media users are sharing stories of Afro-Latina girls celebrating their quinceañeras in all their glory, helping younger generations see themselves included in this tradition. Platforms like TikTok have played a big role, with viral videos showcasing Afro-Latina quinceañera celebrations that challenge outdated stereotypes and uplift a broader, more accurate vision of Latinidad.
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Like all cultural traditions, the quinceañera is evolving to reflect the diversity of the Latino experience. What was once seen as a ceremony with rigid expectations is now a more flexible, personal celebration where Latinas of all backgrounds can make the tradition their own. This shift is crucial because Latinidad is not one-size-fits-all. Afro-Latinas have always been a part of the Latino culture, and their presence in quinceañera celebrations is a reminder that Latino identity is multifaceted.
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Many Latinos who don’t appear stereotypically “Latino” deal with having their race questioned fairly often. Most educated people don’t need to be reminded that the United States doesn’t have a welcoming history for people of races other than white. Therefore race, ethnicity, and identity that is non-white have simply been pushed into the othered “non-white” category. For Latinos, this is particularly challenging because, by most standards, Latino isn’t a race and is considered an ethnicity.
Yet many Latinos still struggle with race and identity because while Latino is debated as a race, Latinos of various races present as they are, thus confusing non-Latinos whose only familiarity with the community is through stereotypes. Any internet search of what a Latino person “looks like” will confirm the utter and total inaccuracy of what Latinos actually look like.
Google search of “latino person” shows mostly brown and lighter-skinned people.
Black Latinos and Afro-Latinos are probably misunderstood the most because mainstream media has done an abysmal job of accurately including them in media narratives. Thus, most people don’t know that Latinos come in all shapes, sizes, and skin colors, which includes Black skin. According to the Pew Research Center, about 6 million Latinos in the U.S. identify as Afro-Latino, making up about 2% of the adult population and 12% of the adult Latino population in the U.S.
The topic of Latino identity and what Latinidad means, particularly in America, is multi-dimensional and ever-evolving. The community as a collective can’t even decide what they want to be called - and maybe that’s a good thing, because if non-Latinos want a single label, they won’t ever do the work of learning the cultural and racial diversity that makes the concept of Latinidad so unique. Being Latino in the U.S. means more than just an outward appearance; it means culture, language, ancestry, geographical roots, and so much more.
The Erasure of Black and Afro-Latinos in Media
For decades, the media has portrayed a specific image of what a Latino “looks” like. Unsurprisingly, that image is lighter-skinned Latinos like Sofia Vergara, Salma Hayek, and Jennifer Lopez.
Researcher Keara K. Goin noted in her research paper in the “Afrolatinidad” subsection, “Popularly imagined as a homogenous “brown” race with a mixed Indigenous and Spanish ethnoracial heritage, the extreme diversity within the Latinx population is systematically flattened, ignored, and erased.”
In his Times article, Andrew R. Chow looked at how Afro-Latino actors continue to struggle against Latino stereotypes and discrimination. He points out that “Afro-Latino actors are consistently shut out of roles because they don’t match that image—and when they are cast, it’s even rarer that they get to play Afro-Latino characters, instead playing characters who are Black or mixed race but not Latino.”
The lack of Afro-Latino acknowledgment has its cultural and literal roots in Latin America, where being Afro-Latino comes with displacement and exclusion. It’s painfully apparent in Spanish-language entertainment where non-white actors are rarely cast, much less Afro-Latino actors, opting instead to uphold harmful Western beauty standards and colorism by exclusively hiring actors that are either white or very white-passing.
The Need for Consciousness in Making Change
Changing this narrative is far from easy, but it takes creating consciousness first. Starting with learning and accepting that Latinos aren’t just one race, Latinos are different races, and Afro-Latinos are a significant and crucial part of the community. Therefore we must continue to advocate for Afro-Latino inclusion and representation. Hollywood has made some progress in the representation of Afro-Latinos, but not nearly enough.
The 2023 Nielsen Representation Study revealed that Afro-Latino men had only 0.1% on-screen representation in 2023, while Afro-Latinas were slightly better represented at 0.7%. This is still significantly low considering the estimated 6 million Afro-Latinos in the U.S. The study also revealed that 81% of Afro-Latinos feel misrepresented in the media.
In an interview with Latin Times, Nielsen's Senior VP for Diverse Initiatives and Insights, Stacie de Armas, stated, "Something important to point out is that they [Afro-Latinos] not only feel underrepresented. They literally are. When we look at representation data in inclusion analytics, Afro Latinos are virtually invisible in content, next to only Indigenous people. This has essentially led to the erasure of Afro Latino stories and narratives and representation in Media."
From 2007 to 2018, only six lead or co-lead roles were portrayed by Afro-Latino actors across 1,300 top-grossing films. This long-standing issue of underrepresentation seems to be costing the industry billions of dollars. In 2024, The Latino Donor Collaborative's report suggested that achieving proper Latino representation could generate an additional $12 billion to $18 billion a year for the entertainment industry.
But the reality is that Afro-Latinos are still too often cast aside or told they should be playing Black characters rather than Latino characters because they don’t “fit” into that role. Increasing Afro-Latino representation is critical in order to continue expanding the understanding of the truth breadth of the Latino community.
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