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Myth: People with disabilities can’t do meaningful work
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Raise your hand if you’ve ever heard someone say disabled people aren’t “cut out” for certain jobs. The truth? Disabled individuals bring an incredible range of skills and perspectives to the workplace. With proper accommodations—things like flexible schedules, adaptive tools, or remote options—there’s no limit to what they can achieve.
Think about it: people with disabilities earn advanced degrees, manage teams, run businesses, and excel in countless industries. What they need is opportunity, not pity, and we must remember that success comes from talent and determination—not physical or neurological traits.
Myth: All disabilities are visible
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Here’s a big one: not all disabilities come with a wheelchair, cane, or other visible markers. Conditions like chronic illnesses, mental health disorders, and neurodivergent traits are often invisible. That doesn’t make them any less real. Unfortunately, many disabled people get invalidated because others “can’t see” their disability.
Needless to say, that’s dismissive and harmful. Imagine telling someone with fibromyalgia or autism that they’re “just fine” because they don’t look disabled—it’s like trying to argue that gravity doesn’t exist because you can’t see it. It’s important we believe and support disabled people when they share their experiences, and educate ourselves as much as possible.
Myth: Disabled people always need help
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You’d be surprised how many people think being disabled means needing constant care. While some individuals do require assistance, many disabled people are completely independent. They know what they need, how to ask for help when necessary, and how to live their lives on their own terms.
Assuming someone always needs help isn’t just wrong—it’s patronizing. This is why it’s good practice to ask disabled people if they need help instead of doing things for them. That instinct may come from a good place, but disabled people aren’t helpless and it’s not kind to assume that they are.
Myth: People with physical disabilities also have cognitive impairments
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It’s not uncommon for people to conflate physical disability with cognitive impairments. Unfortunately, that’s an ableist assumption that should be left in the dust. Physical and cognitive disabilities are entirely separate, so it’s important not to conflate the two.
For example, someone with cerebral palsy may have a speech impediment but no cognitive impairments whatsoever. If you’re unsure about someone’s disability and want to be respectful, let them tell you about their abilities and listen to their experience.
Myth: Disabilities make people’s lives tragic or burdensome
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The idea that disability equals tragedy is not only outdated, but it also erases the full, vibrant lives many disabled people lead. Disability is not some cosmic punishment—it’s a natural part of human diversity. Many disabled individuals view their disability as just one part of who they are, not something to “overcome” or “fix.” The more productive thing to do is celebrate all the ways disability enriches the human experience and be inspired by how resilient, strong, creative, smart, resourceful, and empowered disabled people tend to be.
Disability myths don’t just exist in a vacuum—they shape how we treat people, what opportunities we offer them, and how they’re included in society. Busting them is a great way to start creating a world where everyone, disabled or not, is treated with respect and dignity. The next time you encounter one of these myths, challenge it. By breaking down stereotypes and listening to the voices of disabled individuals, we can help create a more inclusive and compassionate world.
Women Are the Default Kinkeepers
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Women often end up being the default family kinkeepers—they’re the ones who remember everyone’s birthdays, plan get-togethers, and try to keep the peace when things get tense. People like to say women are just naturally good at this kind of stuff, but let’s be real: it’s more of an unspoken expectation than some magical instinct. And honestly, it can feel like a heavy weight to carry.
Kinkeeping Is Emotional Labor, and It’s Exhausting
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If kinkeeping sounds like work, that’s because it is. The constant effort to keep everyone in touch, remember important dates, and make everyone feel loved falls under the umbrella of emotional labor. And it’s not just time-consuming—it’s mentally draining. Women who take on this role often feel unappreciated because their efforts are invisible until they stop doing them.
It’s Generational—and Hard to Break
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Kinkeeping isn’t something most women sign up for; it’s passed down through generations. When daughters grow up watching their mothers handle family connections, they often step into the role without question. In Latino families, for example, the upholding of marianismo and machismo beliefs places this burden on Latina women’s shoulders. Overall, kinkeeping helps reinforce gender imbalances in emotional labor, making it even harder to challenge.
Kinkeeping Can Impact Women’s Mental Health
Photo by Matthew Ball on UnsplashWhile it can be fulfilling to keep your family close, the constant pressure to ensure everyone stays connected can also take a toll. Emotional labor has been proven to have an effect on mental health. Women who juggle high levels of emotional labor can be more likely to experience anxiety, depression, and burnout. The expectation to always be “on” for the family can feel overwhelming, especially when combined with work and other responsibilities.
It’s Often Thankless Work
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Here’s the kicker: kinkeeping rarely gets acknowledged. When a family reunion happens or a loved one gets a heartfelt birthday call, people don’t usually stop to thank the person who made it happen. This lack of recognition can leave women feeling undervalued, despite their efforts being the glue that holds the family together.
Kinkeeping plays a vital role in preserving relationships and traditions, but the emotional labor behind it shouldn’t be anyone’s sole responsibility. By sharing the load, acknowledging the effort, and breaking the cycle of gendered expectations, families can stay connected in a way that uplifts everyone involved. So, next time you get that family group text, take a moment to appreciate the person behind the scenes—and maybe offer to help out too.
