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Many in the Latine community were raised with a certain sense of responsibility to their families. Some of this stems from the heavily patriarchal culture, which reinforces harmful expectations of men that inspire machista behavior from them. While some women knowingly and unknowingly participate in upholding marianismo, machismo maintains the gender role expectations that ultimately carry over into the parenting styles of fathers.
What is Machismo?
Machismo is defined as cultural expectations or behaviors of men in Latino culture that set out to prove their masculinity. Both negative and positive aspects accompany the set of beliefs which include bravery, honor, dominance, aggression, sexism, sexual prowess, and reserved emotions, among others. Research indicates that machismo affects everything from male self-esteem to their ability to authentically connect with others which are connected to the actions men often demonstrate so they can be perceived as strong, capable, and powerful.
Many in Latino households were raised in a culture where men are expected to work, provide, and be the head of the household within the context of machismo and marianismo, and despite the evolving gender paradigms in modern society, the effects of machismo continue generationally.
Authoritative vs. Authoritarian Parenting
Photo by Lucas Metz on UnsplashA 2016 study from the University of Texas Austin’s School of social work found that the authoritarian form of parenting, which is all too common in the Latine community, is a much less effective form of parenting compared to others. Authoritarian parenting centers around the concept of enforcing strict conduct and rules in children, which creates an almost militant level of expectation of respeto.
Respeto is a value that feeds into the hierarchy of social norms in making children overly obedient to their parents. Those same parents, in turn, are obedient to either their own parents or any elders, with the men taking the role of patriarch and final decision-maker.
That same study found that authoritative parenting, which is different than authoritarian parenting, was found to be more effective in higher academic achievements in children. The study explains that authoritarian styles enforce the rules but don’t provide the why behind those rules, while authoritative parenting enforces the rules and expectations, but provides explanations and justifications while doing so. Support and nurturing attitudes also accompany the authoritative parenting style compared to authoritarian.
Combine this authoritarian style with machismo, and we get the stereotypical Latino father we’re all familiar with who doesn’t show emotion, isn’t allowed to cry (unless drunk and singing along to Vicente Fernandez), and rarely provides emotional support or guidance.
Can Newer Generations of Latino Fathers End Machismo?
Photo by Kelly Sikkema on UnsplashNewer generations of Latinos can change what it means to be a “real man.” Oftentimes Latino culture not only reinforces the role of men as the provider but ascribes an additional sense of pride in being the main breadwinner of their households. As Latinas continue to outpace Latinos in things like educational attainment and get closer to closing the wage gap between Latinos and Latinas (but not white men), it shouldn’t be viewed as shameful that Latino men make less income or choose to be stay-at-home parents.
In machista culture, it’s considered a weakness when men express their feelings or emotions. According to a 2019 study regarding gender roles in the Latino community, women are found to be twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression vs men. While the correlation between gender and depression in the Latino community isn’t explained, it is suspected that men are less likely to be diagnosed with depression because of the cultural expectation to not express emotions, therefore, leading to a higher rate of undiagnosed depression.
Transforming Machismo
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Unlearning cultural expectations is hard and requires a collective effort to change. Enabling men to be their authentic selves involves a level of self-reflection some might be unfamiliar or uncomfortable with. The harmful culture isn’t just because of resistant men, it’s also women who reinforce the norms they’re used to. There’s a high level of self-awareness that’s associated with becoming emotionally intelligent, and the cultural shift will occur when enough people reevaluate their roles within that culture and decide they won’t recreate cycles of harm.
When the cultural expectations of machismo are diminished this will allow Latino men to express their true, authentic selves, and create a culture where Latino fathers will no longer be categorized as cold, distant, and emotionally detached and will be known for what we know to be true: Latino fathers have enormous hearts and emotions that run as deep as their cultural roots.
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Breaking Barriers: Empowering Latina Moms in Breastfeeding
Latina mothers have historically undertaken the task of breastfeeding with unwavering dedication. However, the question looms: Does society truly play a committed role in supporting and accompanying them during this crucial stage?
Far beyond being a mere biological practice, breastfeeding is a profound, and sometimes challenging commitment that significantly influences public health, the well-being of our children, the harmony of family units, and the overall quality of life for families and communities. Therefore, breastfeeding should be viewed and treated as a collective endeavor, a community act that intricately weaves a rich tradition passed down from generation to generation in our community.
While breastfeeding creates many radiant moments for mothers, it’s essential to confront the problems that disrupt the natural practice of feeding our children.
Historically, breastfeeding served as a shared ritual, a thread connecting the social fabric, creating a support network among women to nourish both body and spirit. Yet, in today's world, we face challenges threatening the delicate bonds of community: work pressures, social stigma, and a lack of support. These challenges make the already complex process of caring for an infant even more difficult than it should be.
At the crossroads of the 21st century, the decision to become a mother faces a dichotomy imposed by a society still grappling with reconciling motherhood with female autonomy. This struggle is particularly pronounced for Latina mothers, where cultural traditions and preconceptions about women's roles intersect.
In navigating these tensions, the challenge of changing cultural standards for lactating mothers extends beyond merely challenging external expectations. It necessitates a thoughtful and objective reassessment of the deeply ingrained roles assigned to women in parenting.
Acknowledging and valuing our cultural traditions while fostering more equitable participation in parenthood is essential for a world free of machismo and patriarchal rules placed upon women’s bodies.
We recognize the harsh realities Latina mothers confront – from the demand to resume work shortly after childbirth to enduring disapproving glances while feeding their babies in public, fueled by outdated myths and sexualized perceptions of breasts. Moreover, navigating the profound physical transformation of their bodies, breastfeeding becomes a solitary journey, as society's understanding of this experience continues to fail mothering in the 21st century.
How can we advocate for breastfeeding? What can we do from our own spaces?
Acknowledging the barriers for new mothers who choose to, or can, breastfeed is the first step. There are tangible actions we can take to change the collective perspective on breastfeeding as an act of care that should be sustained and shared by society as a whole. Let's talk about concrete actions:
Advocate for Breastfeeding-Friendly Workspaces:
Companies and workplaces can empower breastfeeding mothers by implementing policies such as equipped lactation rooms and flexible schedules.
Demystify Social Stigma Surrounding Breastfeeding:
Community awareness campaigns to change perceptions and eliminate stigma around breastfeeding and the sexualization of breasts, emphasizing the importance of this natural and healthy act.
Establish Community Support Groups:
Create local support groups where mothers can share experiences, tips, and receive the emotional support needed during breastfeeding.
Facilitate Education on Breastfeeding:
Organize educational workshops in communities and health centers to provide accurate information about the benefits of breastfeeding and address common myths.
Promote Equitable Maternity Leave Policies:
Advocate for more extensive and equitable maternity leave policies that allow mothers to dedicate the necessary time to breastfeeding before returning to work.
Involve the Community:
Organize community events to raise awareness about the importance of supporting breastfeeding mothers, fostering a culture of understanding and collaboration.
Support Local Female Empowerment Initiatives:
Back and participate in projects that promote female empowerment and equality, contributing to the transformation of traditional roles in parenting and breastfeeding.
Become Aware of Your Own Unconscious or Conscious Biases:
How often have you seen a woman breastfeeding in person and stared longer than you should have, or even unconsciously made a face expressing displeasure? Or perhaps you could have been more polite or helpful somehow? Helping someone feel more comfortable is sometimes as easy as expressing kind words or gestures.
Many in the Latine community were raised with a certain sense of responsibility to our families. Some of this stems from the heavily patriarchal culture which reinforces harmful expectations of men that then inspires machista behavior from them. While some women knowingly and unknowingly participate in upholding marianismo, machismo maintains the gender role expectations that ultimately carry over into the parenting styles of fathers.
Machismo Defined
Machismo is defined as cultural expectations or behaviors of men in Latino culture that set out to prove their masculinity. Both negative and positive aspects accompany the set of beliefs which include bravery, honor, dominance, aggression, sexism, sexual prowess, and reserved emotions, among others. Research indicates that machismo affects everything from male self-esteem to their ability to authentically connect with others which are connected to the actions men often demonstrate so they can be perceived as strong, capable, and powerful.
Many in Latino households were raised in a culture where men are expected to work, provide, and be the head of the household within the context of machismo and marianismo, and despite the evolving gender paradigms in modern society, the effects of machismo continue generationally.
A 2016 study from the University of Texas Austin’s school of social work found that the authoritarian form of parenting which is all too common in the Latinx community is a much less effective form of parenting compared to others. Authoritarian parenting centers around the concept of enforcing strict conduct and rules in children which creates an almost militant level of expectation of respeto. Respeto is a value that feeds into the hierarchy of social norms in making children overly obedient to their parents. Those same parents, in turn, are obedient to either their own parents or any elders, with the men taking the role of patriarch and final decision-maker.
That same study found that authoritative parenting, which is different than authoritarian parenting, was found to be more effective in higher academic achievements in children. The study explains that authoritarian styles enforce the rules but don’t provide the why behind those rules, while authoritative parenting enforces the rules and expectations, but provides explanations and justifications while doing so. Support and nurturing attitudes also accompany the authoritative parenting style compared to authoritarian.
Combine this authoritarian style with machismo and we get the stereotypical Latino father we’re all familiar with who doesn’t show emotion, isn’t allowed to cry (unless drunk and singing along to Vicente Fernandez), and rarely provide emotional support or guidance.
Change in Machista Culture
Newer generations of Latinos can change what it means to be a “real man.” Oftentimes Latino culture not only reinforces the role of men as the provider but ascribes an additional sense of pride in being the main breadwinner of their households. As Latinas continue to outpace Latinos in things like educational attainment and get closer to closing the wage gap between Latinos and Latinas (but not white men) it shouldn’t be viewed as shameful that Latino men make less income or choose to be the stay at home parent.
In machista culture, it’s considered a weakness when men express their feelings or emotions. According to a 2019 study regarding gender roles in the Latino community, women are found to be twice as likely to be diagnosed with depression vs men. While the correlation between gender and depression in the Latino community isn’t explained, it is suspected that men are less likely to be diagnosed with depression because of the cultural expectation to not express emotions, therefore, leading to a higher rate of undiagnosed depression.
Unlearning cultural expectations is hard and requires a collective effort to change. Enabling men to be their authentic selves involves a level of self-reflection some might be unfamiliar or uncomfortable with. The harmful culture isn’t just because of resistant men, it’s also women who reinforce the norms they’re used to. There’s a high level of self-awareness that’s associated with becoming emotionally intelligent and the cultural shift will occur when enough people reevaluate their roles within that culture and decide they won’t recreate cycles of harm.
When the cultural expectations of machismo are diminished this will allow Latino men to express their true, authentic selves, and create a culture where Latino fathers will no longer be categorized as cold, distant, and emotionally detached and will be known for what we know to be true: Latino fathers have enormous hearts and emotions that run as deep as their cultural roots.
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