Women Mature Faster and Other Gender Myths: The Truth Behind Popular Beliefs

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Remember that ‘friendly advice’ or those bits of ‘wisdom’ we used to hear growing up? They were everywhere – at family gatherings, adult conversations, and even in movies and telenovelas. At some point, some of them had tiny grains of truth in them. As they became de-bunked or better understood, they stayed rooted in everyday conversation and to this day still conveniently excuse men and unfairly burden women with blame and responsibility.


It's time we sift through the truth and fiction. Dive into these so-called nuggets of wisdom and see what they're really made of.


Women Mature Faster Than Men

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Ah, the age-old notion that "women mature faster than men." We've all heard it, and it's often used to justify relationships with significant age gaps or to excuse men's childish behaviors.

Sure, there might be some scientific validity to the idea. Studies show that certain parts of the female brain might develop faster than in males. But maturity isn't just about physical development. It's a complex blend of emotional, intellectual, and social growth.

When we reduce maturity to a simple gender-based comparison, we miss the bigger picture. People mature at different rates, regardless of their gender. Some men might show incredible emotional intelligence and social skills at a young age, while some women might take more time to develop those traits.

Using this stereotype to justify age gaps in relationships or to make sure women assume their caretaker roles at a young age is unfair. It perpetuates outdated gender roles and limits our understanding of what true maturity really means.

Maturity is a personal journey unique to each individual. It's not something that can be defined by a one-size-fits-all statement.

Your Biological Clock is Ticking

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This is a popular phrase mostly directed at women. It's often a warning about declining fertility as we age. And while there is some truth to the biological realities, let's explore the bigger picture.

Firstly, this phrase puts undue pressure on women, as if their sole purpose is tied to having children. Secondly, it's not just women who face fertility challenges with age. Men's fertility also declines, and it can affect a child's health too - with recent studies showing that while women continue to be screened in pregnancy for genetic abnormalities like Down Syndrome, it turns out that at much as 20% of Down Syndrome abnormalities can now be traced to aging sperm.

Everyone's fertility journey is different. Some women are most fertile in their early 20s, while others may have more time. According to some experts, fertility starts to decline after age 32 and becomes more challenging after 37. For men, fertility can begin to decrease in their 40s.

The idea of a "biological clock" mainly refers to the challenge of getting pregnant later in life. However, it also symbolizes the psychological pressure some feel when they haven't had a child by a certain age.

Thankfully, advancements in reproductive health care offer more choices. Fertility treatments like egg freezing allow women to preserve their eggs for the future, giving them more control over their family planning.

Needless to say, the decision of when to have a child is deeply personal. External pressures, such as career and relationships, can influence this decision. But ultimately, it's about what feels right for you, both physically and mentally. Whether it's having children early, later, or not at all, what matters most is that we make these decisions on our terms, and now, with the help of science, on our timelines.

Men Cheat More Than Women Because It's Just "In their Nature"

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This idea suggests that men are biologically wired to be unfaithful as if it's some instinct ingrained in them since ancient times.

There might have been some evolutionary factors in play in the long distant past, but our behaviors today are far more complex than simple survival instincts. Luckily, we've come a long way from our hunter-gatherer days, and society has evolved with us.

Infidelity is influenced by a range of individual, relational, and societal factors, not just gender. Saying that cheating is "in their nature" takes away personal responsibility and normalizes hurtful actions. It perpetuates the harmful stereotype that men are slaves to their sexual urges, which is far from the truth.

Humans, regardless of gender, have the ability to make thoughtful choices and practice self-control.

Women are More Emotional Than Men

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Psychology research tells us that emotions are a universal human experience. Men feel emotions just as intensely as women do. The real difference lies in how emotions are expressed and processed, and this is shaped by societal norms and expectations.

For example, men may be less likely to openly express their feelings due to the pressures of traditional masculinity. Society often tells them that showing emotion is a sign of weakness. This myth restricts emotional freedom and expression for everyone, not just women.

The idea that 'real men' don't cry or express emotions is harmful. Emotional vulnerability is not a weakness; it's a natural part of being human. Suppressing emotions can negatively impact mental health and prevent men from seeking help or sharing their feelings.

This stereotype also connects to the myth that women can’t be leaders because they’re “too emotional.” It suggests that women are incapable of making rational decisions due to their emotions. But this is far from the truth.

Women have proven themselves as effective leaders in various fields, from politics to business. In fact, studies show that women often excel in leadership skills like collaboration, empathy, and multitasking. Emotions can enhance leadership by promoting understanding and effective communication. In any case, they’re a strength, not a weakness.

Women are Naturally More Nurturing, Men are Naturally More Aggressive

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These outdated stereotypes have long been used to justify harmful beliefs rooted in machismo and marianismo. In countless instances within Latino families, women have been unjustly burdened with enduring any form of abuse from men (with the excuse that men are incapable of controlling themselves), all in the name of maintaining family unity.

The idea that women are naturally more nurturing is often tied to the expectation that they should be caretakers and mothers. While it's true that certain hormones like oxytocin promote bonding behaviors, men also produce these hormones. The difference in nurturing behavior is more about societal expectations than biology. Men can be just as loving and caring as women, and many thrive in caregiving roles.

Similarly, the belief that men are naturally more aggressive due to testosterone is an oversimplification. Yes, testosterone can influence aggression, but it's not the sole determinant. Aggressive behavior is shaped by a combination of factors, including upbringing, social environment, and individual temperament. Testosterone levels can vary greatly among men, and many with high levels do not exhibit increased aggression. On the other hand, women, who typically have lower testosterone levels, can and do exhibit aggressive behaviors too.

These myths not only limit our understanding of human behavior but perpetuate harmful gender stereotypes.

So yes, there are biological differences between men and women, but that doesn't mean we should buy into harmful myths and stereotypes. It's crucial to think critically and stay informed to break free from restrictive gender roles. When it comes to growing up, expressing emotions, fertility, or wanting to become parents, everyone is different.

Generalizations can oversimplify and misunderstand the richness of our human experiences, and create easy scapegoats to keep shifting blame in defense and support of the patriarchy.

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